In this modern world what so many of us forget is that the human psyche needs time to digest and reacclimatise to information. Sometimes what we don't do is every bit as powerful as that which we do do.Taking time out to remember the tale of the pomegranate can help shift your focus towards a more positive outcome.
When high expectations are held of us from an early age we can start to nurture an internal drive to meet the standards set for us and feel chronically unhappy or dissatisfied if we don't achieve the level of success we set out to accomplish. This develops into perfectionism in adulthood and results in the relentless quest for excellence.
It is so important to put your action plans into action otherwise they are just words on a piece of paper that will never materialise. We so often navel gaze and Shonda is right that the lint in our navels gets embarrassed for us! She goes on to impart a three point lesson.
n many ways, this is how previously closed doors to your self-development, will begin to open. You could start by asking those near to you, how their lives are. This one action, will enable you to understand how life is for others. And by so doing, you will start to see the impact stuff has on them, therefore, focusing less on you.
Always racing from one task to the next, but accomplish very little? Sound familiar? Most days I'm incessantly striving for a clean loo, disinfected worktops, a clear inbox, a flatter tummy, school gate acceptance and career success. Sometimes I just want to stop the clock.
Imagine if your kindest and dearest girlfriend was being termed 'ugly' and belittled by the world, wouldn't you rush to her defence? I felt the same. You see for the last 12 years Hemel Hempstead has been my home, but more than that she holds great memories and friends.
An effective way to ensure you are able to come across as someone who has good taste is to keep up-to-date. Read good quality magazines that are considered tasteful, visit stores that sell stylish, of-the-moment clothes and accessories. That way, as if by osmosis, you'll become both familiar and au fait with what for some of you may be very new.
In the age of social media we have 24-7 access to everyone else's "highlight reel", we get to see our friends' latest holiday photos to sunny Barbados. It's so easy to compare ourselves and then feel bad and judge ourselves about where we are based on what we see others doing. It's exhausting.
How do your beliefs shape your experience of life? Are there areas where challenging those beliefs might help to shift things in a more positive direction for you? The great thing is that beliefs are just thoughts and we really do have the capacity to chose how we think.
We tend to put a lot of pressure on ourselves at this time of year. We think we'll be happy when we've sorted everything out - the new job, the DIY, paperwork, the new kitchen and so on.