making-friends

It's your first week of university, you're meeting new people, familiarising yourself with your new campus, flat, house, bus route and local watering holes. Your first week you're winging it, you're jumping at every opportunity, reading every 'freshers' survival guide and you're moving at rocket speed...
Freshers' Week is only a week. We all act like this weird suspension of reality will define us and our entire university experience. It doesn't. Everything settles down and everyone starts to settle into themselves come week three, and that's when the magic happens.
Online support is great, when you are up at 3am knowing that someone else is too makes it better. But does our online world solve isolation and loneliness? No it doesn't. To solve the problem we need a real life support network.
I've recently moved to a new area of the UK, far away from my existing network of friends. I realised that I'd never had to do this before, as I'd always been within reach of school or university friends or meeting people through my work.
A successful life is down to how adept you are at attracting personal and professional opportunities into your life, and the lives of everyone else you know. Meeting new people face-to-face is the single best way of doing that. It applies equally for purely social events as well as work related parties, drinks receptions etc.
Sometimes I worry that I've become nothing more than a human embodiment of a 'worthy cause' telethon. The issues which I
Suddenly on your own again, with the disappearance of all the family chores, it can be a frightening prospect. All of a sudden you have to accept that your child rearing days are over. You have to adapt to life solely with your partner or on your own, and you have to think about what you are going to do with all that spare time, previously taken up with family activities.
I can't tell you if this will change me fundamentally for ever and ever as a person or whether it will just open my eyes a bit more to peoples' humanity and reduce my own insecure need to 'not put myself out there' for fear of rejection, but I have noticed that I've made a lot more friends in the past couple of weeks.
Nearly a third of grandparents only see their grandchildren once a month - or even less frequently - according to a survey