Cause or effect? The key point here is that at any given moment, you have the choice. You either allow what's happening to affect you and hold on to your excuses. Or you take full responsibility for what is going on and choose to get your result. I know which I choose!
When it comes to making pivotal decisions, I really don't think that anyone else can give you the answers that only you are best placed to address, but I do think that there are three helpful questions that can help when wrestling with a major career decision.
What makes the quarter-life crisis of the overachiever different is the extent to which they deeply struggle with embracing their own individuality, particularly when it comes to separating themselves from their parents.
You are offered the job you've always wanted. At last--recognition for all your hard work and achievement. Surely, your spouse and children will be just as happy as you are. Or will they?