My parents are proof that race may play an integral factor in social relationships, but it never will when it comes to matters of the heart. But I still have that insecurity in the back of my mind that my racial identity will be branded upon the space where my heart is depending on the colour of the hand that is holding mine.
Whenever it gets to the ethnicity section on forms, I always scan right down to the bottom of the list to tick "other." Whilst a lot of tick boxes include mixed ethnicities, I'm yet to find one for White British and Chinese.
Sometimes microaggressions are more telling about the state of society than any legal system can be.
When I first saw the trailer to A United Kingdom, I felt a prickle on my skin, a gust of affiliation to this story promising to tell the triumph of an interracial relationship. I was bewitched by this film that showed a black man and a white woman in love, something of a given for me growing up in a mixed-race household...
Until not long ago, globalisation seemed like an inevitable trend for contemporary world; a state of affairs we were all
Even though I was born in England and identified with its culture more than anything, my skin colour and surname held me back from saying I was English. With no other useful vocabulary I stuck with a cumbersome explanation: "My mum's Italian and my Dad's Indian."
The low number of black and mixed race people signed to the UK stem cell register is sadly a reoccurring pattern. For example, the number of black or mixed race individuals who are active blood donors across England and North Wales is less than 1%.
Although there are the struggles that mixed race people feel when out in the world battling to 'fit in' and identify themselves in the carefully chosen boxes that exist, there's so much more that our mixed race kids will experience and can explore because of their multiple heritages. Here are a few of my favourites...
I am a brown-skinned Asian woman with a white-skinned 16-year-old biological daughter. The word "biological" is a conscious inclusion because very often it doesn't occur to people that she is my daughter.
If you're planning to have children and you're in an interracial relationship, consider these most common complications every parent of mixed heritage children has faced at one point or another.