Now let's get one thing straight, you have every right to not allow your children to eat anything containing sugar of any sort. You get to do your research and make the decision about what healthy eating looks like for your family and I promise I will never give your toddler a sneaky forbidden "treat" behind your back. But can we tone down the judgement a little (OK, a lot)?
As I sit here and look around I feel a sense of shame. Shame at the fact that I am clearly not the type of mother I wanted or hoped to be. I am tired, I am a mess and the never ending pile of things to do is overwhelming.
I believe as parents we are programmed to feel more guilt towards our children, it's important so we can love and raise our precious creations well. So, although it can be positive, the 'mum guilt' I have experienced in the past and still sometimes do now is RIDICULOUS.
Needless to say, Tuesday and Thursday mornings are fast becoming my least favourite times of the week. I wake up anxious and I know that in turn, that probably makes him anxious, but I'm not a robot and I can't switch off my emotions. It's something we will just have to get through together.
As soon as I'd had baby M, I was surprised by the number of women that made comments along the lines of 'let the guilt begin!', as I began talking about my return to work, there was more of the same, and those women were absolutely right.
We all know that being a parent comes with a mahoussive load of guilt. I remember being sat in my Ante Natal Class, pregnant with my first child and being told that when we bring our babies home we also bring home a big ol' bag of guilt.
Whenever we grow too exhausted to beat ourselves up with obligatory innate society-taught mummy guilt, we can be certain Another Mother will do it for us. My childless non-pregnant peers don't, nor do men. It's women with at least one kid.