national adoption week
I remember murmurs of how lucky we were to be adopted together but don't specifically recall any real possibility of us being split up, I think this would have been too traumatic for either of us but that doesn't mean there weren't discussions surrounding the topic.
This week is National Adoption Week, and given that my wonderful husband and I have very recently been approved as adopters I wanted to write a bit about why we have decided to adopt, what it means for us and our family, and explain the process for anyone who might be considering it.
Adopting Siblings Has Changed Our Lives - Let's Celebrate The Joy Of Adoption This National Adoption Week
Adoption is hard, and nothing truly prepares you for some of the challenges that come with it. But they also don't prepare you for how wonderful it is. We have become a real team together, and there is really nothing sweeter than seeing our two girls grow together as siblings, build these strong bonds and grow into these beautiful little girls - our beautiful little girls.
As an adoptive parent, you have to be thick-skinned and strong for your kids: a veritable love warrior. You have to fight to keep their self-esteem and sense of identity intact. You have to support adoption, be an advocate for adoption. You have to tell your kids a different story to the story the world is telling them - in a louder, more confident voice that drowns out all the negative voices.
Adopting a child with a Foetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder is life changing, no doubt about it. But so is adopting any child. When I was adopted back in the 1960s it changed my parents' lives. They drove me home through some of the biggest snowdrifts of the 20th century, stopping to feed me in the back of the car and realising they had little idea what to do. They managed.
This week is National Adoption Week (3-9 November) and this year the focus is on finding new parents for groups of brothers and sisters. According to research carried out by the British Association of Adoption and Fostering around half of the 6,000 children in the UK currently waiting to be adopted are in sibling groups.
We must keep adoption as a high profile topic to remind everyone of the urgent reforms that need to be made, and how we must place the needs of these young children above the bureaucratic system that currently exists.