national coming out day
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This Wednesday, 11th October, is National Coming Out Day, a date popularised in the USA but frequently marked here in the UK too. People use it as an opportunity to come out for the first time, to share their coming out story, or just to promote being out and being part of the LGBT community. But why do we still need to come out? It's 2017. Aren't we done with all that?
"This is a reminder to myself to never hide."
October 11th marks National Coming Out Day (NCOD), a significant date in the ever-growing LGBT calendar of awareness events. The day does what it says on the tin, aiming to celebrate and draw attention to the experience of coming out which has become a 'rite of passage' for many (but not all) LGBT people.
I guess either that or the closet was in the middle of Oxford Street and you didn't have any clothes on or something. Or the closet was in your friend's room and you hid in it as a practical joke but then they came home and started having sex on the bed. That would probably make coming out the closet a bit harder...
With hindsight, I realise being the owner of the collected works of Peggy Lee, smoking cocktail Sobranie cigarettes at parties, and finding pride of place in my bedroom for a beautiful bronze figurine of a dancer doing something athletic with scarves made me less of an enigma than I imagined.
Coming out is probably the most awkward, fumbling thing you could ever imagine. It's like being inside a really warm closet filled with fluffy jackets, but where all the coat hooks are stabbing at you. It's something that doesn't just happen once; it has to be done on a constant basis. And despite what everyone says, taking the leap of faith is not the only option. Unfortunately, before you read any further, you need to know that there's no right and no wrong answer. All I can tell you are the things that I have learned in my 21 years of being a booted-and-sometimes-suited lesbian. My ramblings are not the definitive answer to dealing with sexuality. All I hope is that they provide a little light relief.
Think you have everybody covered? Relatives, friends, key people at work - check. However, you're not out of the woods yet. We live in a world where there may be equality in law, but socially, we've still a long way to go. Even a simple trip to the doctor, or a casual chat with a colleague, and having to say that dreariest, laborious word "partner", like you're in love with a law firm, is an act of coming out.
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