My feelings on this subject are as follows: the words 'teen house parties' should only ever be found in sentences that also contain the words 'over my dead body'. I don't like what I've read about them, I don't like what I've heard about them and I just don't like the concept at all. So how did I end up with one in my house last summer?
What you need to do is visualise the kind of parent you want to be in exam season and start behaving in this way - no matter what you get back from your teen. Even if they don't thank you now, they'll see how hard you tried when they look back in years to come and start to meet you halfway.
Teens and adults can get bogged down with 'silent life suckers' you know, the things that tell you, how you should be, think, feel . What is and isn't 'in' or acceptable, unattainable images constantly in your face. All these 'silent life suckers' can and do start to create doubt, low self-esteem, lack of confidence and in some cases anxiety.
I knew this was inevitable, this separation. It is part of his transition to adulthood. But I didn't expect it to hurt so much. I have become that clichéd old woman who clasps photos of past birthday parties and strokes a little boy's face with a teary smile. (I am not allowed to stroke his real face any more).
For those of you who have followed my blog for a while, you will be aware that one of my daughters is in the world of modelling and acting. This, of course, fills me with immense pride but no more than my other daughter's achievements, or my son's.
As our children grow up everything, starts to change. No sooner do we start feeling confident that we have this 'parenting-lark' sussed - that the goalposts start moving. Here are some pointers: helping you and your teen navigate adolescence.
Sometimes they will want to curl up and cry and it might make them very anxious but it is all a necessary part of going it alone. They can't say no to a team day at work because they are afraid they might be asked to do something they don't want to and haven't learnt to say no yet.
The question is what do we do now? Delete their apps? Take away their phones? They'd only need to watch a few television adverts, go to the movies, flick through a magazine or look up at a billboard to once again be swallowed - Pac-man like - by the fear of not matching up.
I've been party to a number of conversations recently that have got me thinking about this subject. Raising my son to be a gentleman has always been one of my mantras, particularly in the scary modern world of gaming that seems to idolise characters that, I can safely say, without arguement, are not who we could ever class as gentlemen!
Do you know how long it takes to get ready for one of these things ... the styling, the hair, the make up ... and I'm not talking about whilst on the shoot (that's a whole other blog ... trust me) ... I'm talking about before we have even left the house.