It's important to remember that PDAers have little control over using avoidance, they cannot stop seeing a demand as something to avoid and they cannot control a panic attack/meltdown at all. PDA is a disability, with help a PDA person can learn to manage their avoidance and violence but they cannot completely remove the cause.
Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) is a sub-type of autism. Autism is a difference of neurology marked by difficulty in communication, social understanding, literal thinking and heightened sensory processes. PDA, in relation to autism, is a heightened anxious state coupled with an overactive fight, flight, freeze response.
As an adult I have developed many different strategies and coping skills to help manage the more difficult elements of my PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance). Some of these strategies I've learnt to adopt and others have come naturally to me, even before I knew what PDA was.
What should a woman do when her boyfriend refuses to kiss her, on camera, in front of thousands of people? Pour a drink over