Last year, my cousin (who is 10 days younger than me) got married. My friend announced that she was pregnant. And all while I was trying to figure out a way to cheat the system and keep my 16-25 Railcard.
“Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle.” - Napoleon Hill
What could you be doing today to push your boundaries on behalf of your version of success? What could the future version of you be thankful to the present version of you for doing?
When I think back to the beginning of the year when I was still struggling with my quarter-life-crisis, there were so many things I was doing that were totally sabotaging my happiness and success, I just didn't realise I was doing them.
The thing is about a career in entertainment, there are only ever a few people at any one time who are riding high. Everyone else is just standing by the cheese board waiting for their turn.
The midlife crisis is a well-known phenomenon; you may even know somebody that's fallen prey to it and has suddenly developed a large collection of Hawaiian shirts, leather trousers or rock'n'roll compilation CD's. What's not so widely publicised though, is its preliminary attack; a smaller, but equally life changing milestone on the landscape of adulthood, the quarter life crisis.
I was recently having a conversation with a friend where he was doing just that. It was interesting to me because I can definitely remember times where I've done it too. I've initially resisted the paths that I would end up taking, because they felt either too hard or too easy. Yes, you read that right, too easy and it would seem that I am not the only one who does this.
Do you ever feel too old? When was the point in our lives when we became too old for stuff? It seems like a blurry memory of some point in my mid 20's when I felt like it for the first time. When you've transitioned into being a proper grown up, you're supposed to have it together, earn respect and NOT FAIL OR LOOK STUPID!
I sometimes feel as if I did everything backwards. Most people my age are settling down, either relationship wise or career wise, having children, even perhaps leaving their careers to set up their own businesses.
In between pursuing a career, studying and preparing for my backpacking trip, I realised something. Even though I'm not where I want to be in life, and I may not have ticked any of the "boxes," I'm figuring it out, and that's okay. Because if there's one thing that having a quarter-life crisis does, it somehow forces you to live your life.