Self Development

This series of articles will appear weekly and present my recommended Seven Survival Steps for black and ethnic minority staff working in the NHS, but may be a useful read to anyone with an interest in the NHS. The articles are excerpts from a forthcoming handbook, and provide highlights.
So, I've spent the best part of four months unpicking my life, my personality, what I 'know' and how I think, and trying to absorb new mindful ways to manage whatever out of life's toolbox of suffering will fly at me next and in fact I don't feel any better equipped; I feel weakened, worried and considerably worse about myself.
Truly knowing something without judgement or old ideas getting in the way is a process. Yes we can have an intellectual understanding of something almost instantly, but that isn't enough to make actual changes in our lives. Intellectually understanding something is just the tip of the iceberg.
Whenever there's mention of a toxic situation, we all know someone who springs to mind. You know the types; from the jealous and controlling to the self-centred and insecure. Like a soap opera, they fuel conversation when gossiping about others or when we are genuinely concerned.
As a professional coach you might be surprised to hear this but come January 1st I'll be boycotting New Year's resolutions for myself and my clients and that's because I know that making a real commitment to change requires determination and hard work.
If 40 is indeed the new 30, then perhaps at 35 some people are in the midst of a premature midlife crisis. The digital age moves so rapidly and the mid-life crisis may be no exception, it might just sneak up on you.
Fear is often the driver behind hesitation to invest, usually in the form of "what if I can't afford it" and "I don't have the time"; so let's deal with those two bad boys right now and look at how to begin investing in yourself for awesome success.
I work with women across a variety of areas of their lives; losing weight, getting fit, finding purpose, becoming more assertive, breaking bad habits, motivation, energy, nutrition, their relationships etc etc. But what I've come to realise is that there is one common denominator underlying all these challenges and concerns.
Stress is the silent killer that offers very little sign until it's too late. It's important to practise a healthy way of living to ensure that stress isn't something that is going to affect you or those closest to you.
Decisions, decisions, decisions. Life is made up of a million decisions. Some of them are big decisions, like whether you want to have children, and what you want to do for a living, and others are little decisions, like what to have for breakfast, or what to watch at the cinema this Saturday.