I am a hypnotist and it's interesting how many people I meet feel that they are out of control of parts of their lives. There's one thing that simply comes back again and again and is almost impossible for them to change in their everyday lives.
As a teenager I was a mess and ended up in a bad relationship with someone. He wasn't a bad person in any way, he was just
What if depression was actually amnesia? As I started a practise of meditation I started to remember parts of self that had been long forgotten, parts that were so beyond the judging mind, parts that were peaceful, playful and connected to a much wider energy field than 'self'.
But if we feel vulnerable and open to criticism, or are knocked-back by even the smallest of set-backs, then it is all too easy to believe that we're powerless to act, incompetent, unable to relate, and doubt our-self in every area of our life.
People with low self-esteem may have difficulties in relationships. If you're in this situation, you may become a victim of being controlled by how others think, feel and act. You may also be dependent on others for approval and recognition, and fearful of rejection. But you're not alone.
If someone had told me that I was in an abusive relationship, I wouldn't have believed them. It's only now that I am out of it that I can really see it for what it was. There were no beatings but that doesn't mean there was no abuse.
I am tired of the assumption that we will all be better for changing, and fed up of listening to the income-generating voices who, despite not knowing us, insist on pressing the point that we need to do better and try harder at this life malarkey.
How different would our lives be if we believed in ourselves and embraced our unique and true self? What would you tell yourself if you had a positive sense of self-worth? Would you be in a different job? A different relationship? Or maybe just happy to be alone and free of obligation?
The truth is though, the more you practice feigning that confidence, the more you fool yourself, you too will ultimately believe in yourself. You become untouchable, determined, STRONG.
In our culture, there is a belief that when things are broken they become unloveable. Which of course means that we discard them. So we chuck out old toys, throw away chipped plates and ditch things that are no longer of value. We give up on broken people. And sometimes, like me at 18, we even try to give up on ourselves...