Of course you have friends who can help in these situations - but what part of 'surviving' and 'doing it alone' is that? Even with all the friends, family and colleagues in the world, bedtime equals social lock-down and a bit more time to think about everything.
Boy meets girl. They fall in love. They live apart, spending their time between each other's flat, constantly packing and unpacking a bag. Eventually, they become tired of moving between flats and decide that it is time to move in together and perhaps even buy a flat...
Usually the decree absolute marks the end of my work with my divorce clients, however, recently I have been getting back in touch with some of them to find out how they are getting on now. With them all I have found they are in a much better place in their lives
Whatever the trigger for a couple taking such a step, divorce is never an easy or pleasant experience. But there are approaches which can make it more straightforward and somewhat less personally taxing, particularly if there are children involved.
What has been taken is not just financial, it is a feeling of taking life as it was known, friends, holidays, family set up, lifestyle - the list is endless. There are no winners, because each person feels diminished in some way.
If you are separated or divorced, then 2013 will hold all sorts of anxieties and fears about what it may bring. It can feel like a long road of conflict and hostility and it can feel like an overwhelming amount of loss or emptiness. Although it may not seem like this right now, it is a fact that divorce is an end, but it is also very much a new beginning.
Coping with divorce is not only about the immediate emotional impact of loss, it can also be coping with knowing that the ex is with someone else or there is a family or friends gathering somewhere that you used to be a part of.