I'm not lonely but I am alone. A fifty-something divorcé who has gotten used to her own company. This makes me as attractive as Lucrezia Borgia to men who ultimately don't want too much of a challenge in their romantic life.
Solitude is good for you; it is good to connect with other people however it is important to connect with yourself. Solitude is not being lonely or it is being alone with yourself and your thoughts, it is creating the space to reconnect with how you are and whom you will become.
To be able to be with ourselves, and just ourselves, is very important. This means not only time out from interaction with others, but also from interaction with the multiple forms of technology and social media that many of us succumb to on a daily, even hourly, basis.
Society is petrified of seclusion and this is especially difficult if you are in a new city, have recently come out of a relationship, started a new job or generally have just ongoing feelings of isolation and loneliness.
I think I have had it with people. People are not the solution, people are the problem. I drove to Swansea and back last
If the loneliness stems from being over plugged-in to the digital world - then how about reducing the time you spend online. Put those digital devices aside. Come on. Not forever. Simply, unplug now and then.
We need a variety of ways to cope with the resulting pressures of daily life. We need to maintain some semblance of balance, and a sense of purpose in our lives. One of the best ways is by seeking, and enjoying, solitude.
Try out this experiment. Sit in your room for an hour and turn your phone/laptop off. Dispel any distractions, don't do anything, at all. Just sit there. What do you feel at the end of the hour? Aloneness? Sorrow? Or do you feel at peace, content and fulfilled by an hour of your own company?
The School Of Life, the initiative run by philosopher Alain de Botton to develop 'emotional intelligence', has just released
"Only the lonely, know the way I feel," Roy Orbison sang in his 1960 hit single. More than 50 years have now passed and during