stay at home mothers
The mums I know have so much they want to accomplish in 2017 - firm up, lose weight, see more friends, take toddler to more classes, do more creative play, spend more quality time together as a family, write a book, start a blog - up their instagram game... t
There is an undeniable amount of pressure on working mothers to fulfil a new role that has been developed over the past twenty or so years. And curiously enough this role has been created by women themselves.
I take a deep breath. Daughter is not me. I spent all of school trying desperately to fit in, to say the right things, watch the right TV shows so I could join in the conversations, wear the same sort of thing as everyone else. But I always got it a bit wrong, I always felt on the back foot and left out, I was always a bit too much of a nerd.
Sometimes my world feels as though it's become very small, but today I don't feel quite so insignificant after all.
Up until the 1970's, life as a woman was quite simple (if not very equal, but that is another debate). In the main, you got married, you had a child and you stayed at home to raise them and take care of the home while your husband went out to work.
In answer to the question, no women do not better parents than men. There are, of course, bad dads in the world and there are also bad mothers. I just don't think society gives men the opportunities to prove what great parents they can be. This is simply because the overwhelming responsibility for raising children almost always falls on women and this starts at birth.
It seems when the youngest started school people became awfully interested in her life. People that couldn't have cared less how she passed her time at home with small people in tow suddenly want to know. But do they really? Do they really want to know why she's still at home? What she does all day?
When I was working long hours and running from work to childminder I might have had my rose-tinted glasses on and I may have assumed that staying-at-home was the easy option. It really isn't. It can be tiring, mundane, frustrating and boring.
Barely a week passes without a new buzzword being bandied around (normally I haven't heard of any of them), but one that I've been unable to miss over recent months is 'Mumtrepeneur'.
I always imagined I'd love being a stay-at-home-mum. Although I've always enjoyed working, and I'm pretty good at it, I've never been what you'd describe as a career girl. I assumed once I became a mum I would find my forte in life and never look back. I figured I would eventually go back to work part time but it would be because we needed the money, not because I actually wanted to return.