tantra

Yesterday I returned to Manchester after four days at Wilderness Festival in Oxfordshire. Wilderness, for those of you who
Tantra and anything else that purports to make us all more attractive with additional sexual prowess must be worth investigating. There are no limits to the alluring promises made by companies who sell us products or makeovers to improve our sex lives.
Two years ago, Louisa was living in a studio flat off Brick Lane, having "gone off the rails." On one of her all-day benders, a guy walked up to her in a bar and asked if she, "Wanted to learn about the female orgasm?" Although she'd been sexually active since the age of 14, she didn't have an orgasm until she was 18
She wanted to be with men who empathized, have emotional intelligence, as well as being content in their masculinity. For many men this sounds like an impossibility - 'butch and caring' - do they fit in the same box?
I am currently cycling through China and this kerfuffle over a shopping bag has got me thinking about what brahmacharya means to me, and also how a lack of brahmacharya has dramatically affected China.
A couple of weeks ago someone messaged me on twitter saying, "My buddy just told me about tantric experience! What is that?" I replied, "In essence, tantra is the use of (sexual) energy to refine consciousness and awareness."
Its easy to be overwhelmed by the energy of sexual attraction. Attractive energy bubbles up and escalates. Everything quickens. The pulse quickens; the breath can shorten - we tend not even to notice that this happens.
I've been thinking about how we inhabit our sexual energy. When we think of sex, we usually focus on the external experience