Teen Sex Education
Arguably no parent is ever ready, nor indeed understands when the time is right to have a chat about the birds and the bees. Truth is, you may not be the first person to have the chat with them, so the earlier the better.
Blaming porn for children being sexually active and anxious about sex, is a single minded and uneducated view. Snapchat, Tinder, Facebook and even Whatsapp, all give young people an endless platform for swapping messages and photos without their parents knowing.
Someone also stated that yes it was true she didn't give consent, but she didn't say no. Honestly, it's crazy that the fact she didn't explicitly give consent didn't just close the conversation of whether it was rape or not, it had to be debated. Even though she was clearly seen to be unresponsive.
After almost 50 years in nursing, it still worries me that not enough emphasis is placed on the 'Three Rs' when it comes to sexual health education in Britain. It seems that we are so keen to teach our young people the mechanics of what is safe and what isn't, that we forget there is so much more they should, and indeed must, know.
So she comes home from school and casually drops it into our 'how's your day gone' conversation. The conversation we have every day. Except this isn't about the funny thing that happened in maths or that she sang a solo in the choir. This is about a boy, 'the boy' the one she likes and I can tell she's smitten.
I shouldn't have to order my Valentine's Day card online to be able to customise it, so that it's not one of the thousands that says 'boyfriend' that features a girl giving a boy a bunch of flowers.
Intimate partner violence is terrifyingly common among young people, and in society as a whole, with an average of two women a week killed by a partner or former partner in England and Wales. Yet it is denied, and victims are blamed and suffer an average of 35 violent incidents before seeking help. We are facing a tide of denial, ignorance and acceptance of behaviour which is simply unacceptable... Let's help today's young people to be the first generation to say "enough's enough". We must have compulsory sex and relationships education in all schools, now.
Yet, all these generations had something in common, a porn magazine was shared amongst friends, it was fun, exciting, nerve racking. Now accessibility is so extensive it's become the norm, and girls expect it, as they feel it is the norm too.
Who remembers sex education at school? I do (it is permanently etched onto my frontal lobe). We were given a book in year eight with a well-thumbed page showing a cross section of sexual intercourse which looked more like a ham sandwich with legs than the beautiful act of love.