I dislike that phrase "arranged marriage" because in my mind, that equals a "forced" marriage. And mine, like most others in my community, was anything but. At any time you have the option of saying no.... I'm proud to report that after 18 years, I'm still very happily in love, and our marriage isn't any different than any of yours. My dear husband is everything I thought he would be; caring, heart of gold, great sense of humor, and does everything for me and our children.