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Then it escalated to swear words becoming the adjectives of choice to describe her once 'darling John'.
I pored over each update, but did not add to the thread – there was enough of a captive audience doing that already, much fake are 'are you OK?' and 'OMG! EMAIL ME IMMEDIATELY!' messages from 'concerned' friends who obviously just wanted in on a bit of blood-shed and angst.'Have thrown John out. It's over'.
Monica's relationship status was changed to 'it's complicated' and her picture - once a wholesome family shot of her, John and their offspring on holiday - was replaced by a pouty, cleavagey 'look at me boys!' type image.In the end I felt compelled to send a private message just saying 'sorry you are going through such a rough time'. But nothing more. Because a) I thought it was a really stupid place to be putting all this personal information, and b) I had a sneaking suspicion how it would all end up – much slagging off of 'John', much baying for blood from Monica's pals, then a week later, announcements of renewing of marriage vows and second honeymoons in the Seychelles.
The marriage had, after all, been played out on the web since they first walked up the aisle three years ago; since then, everything from a pic of a positive pregnancy test through to semi-porny pics of her in her bridal nightwear had been put up for public consumption. In fact, me and another chum once logged in on their wedding night fully expecting to find video footage of the consummation of their marriage online.Ugh. Small mouth sick time. Goodness, there have been occasions in my own breakup (breakdown?) where I have wanted to Facebook, Tweet, scrawl on toilet walls, and write across the sky what a $£%$ my ex is, but surely, SURELY, it's really not the way to behave? Or is it?
Am I missing a trick in self-preservation, gratification and good old-fashioned vengeance? What do you think?
Have YOU used social networking to get your own back on your ex, or just to vent the frustrations of your relationship? Is it just what people do in 2011?