But then I met a new mum who'd had a 'good birth' – and suddenly I thought, okay, maybe I can do this.
Now a new website aims to bring together anxious mums-to-be and women who want to share their positive experience.
Active birth teacher and doula Natalie Meddings is behind www.tellmeagoodbirthstory.com, which she describes as something of a dating agency – nervous pregnant 30-something seeks mother-of-one for coffee (decaffeinated) and chat.
"This is not promising people on a wing and a prayer," she said. "It's about believing in your body.
Natalie, who is based in South London, said: "That belief comes a bit from books and NCT classes but in the old days it came from other women – your sister, your mother, your neighbour."
It's not unusual to get near your due date without really talking to someone about the sheer practicalities of having a baby.
Tales we do hear aren't always encouraging. There are plenty of horror stories in the news with tales of emergency Caesareans after agonising two-day labours making the headlines. But in fact only around 20VIRTUAL-Gallery-159479%