A wedding hamper filled with sweets and treats sparked a bitter row after the bride branded it a 'cheap and embarrassing' gift.
It all began when Kathy Mason and her boyfriend attended the Toronto wedding of friend Laura and her unnamed bride.
The couple filled a hamper with biscuits, sweet, fancy condiments and specialty foods for the newlyweds– along with a note which read “Life is delicious – enjoy!”
This was the gift from Kathy Mason and her boyfriend to Laura and her bride
Mason later got a text from Laura, which began: “I want to thank you for coming to the wedding Friday,” the Hamilton Spectator reports.
Laura’s next text asked for the receipt – perhaps understandable as one of the brides is gluten intolerant.
However her next communication said: “I’m not sure if it’s the first wedding you have been to, but for your next wedding… people give envelopes. I lost out on $200 covering you and your dates plate… and got fluffy whip and sour patch kids in return. Just a heads up for the future.”
The spat continued via email:
Kathy: "... to ask for a receipt is unfathomable. In fact it was incredibly disrespectful. It was the rudest gesture I have encountered, or even heard of."
Laura: "Weddings are to make money for your future... not to pay for peoples meals. Do more research. People haven't gave gifts since like 50 years ago! You ate steak, chicken, booze, and a beautiful venue... if anything you should be embarrassed for being so cheap and embarrassing."
Kathy: "It's obvious you have the etiquette of a twig, I couldn't care less of what you think about the gift you received, 'normal' people would welcome anything given, you wanna have a party, you pay for it, DON'T expect me to."
Laura: "You should have been cut from the list... I knew we were gunna get a bag of peanuts. I was right."
The row has generated a debate about wedding gift etiquette and cultural differences.
Some - including Huffington Post UK readers - have sympathised with Laura, deeming the hamper a "cheap picnic" and "a load of junk". Others however have branded the complaining bride "ungrateful" and "piggish".
Etiquette expert Anna Post told The Huffington Post: "[The guest] is absolutely correct that the choice of gift is 100 percent up to the giver and there’s no minimim or maximum amount.
"It's always up to you and your budget and your relationship to your couple."
Laura, an Italian native who declined to giver her surname, told the Toronto Star neither she nor her Croatian bride had ever been to a wedding where guests didn’t give cash.
She said: “I don’t know what day or century they’re living in… it must have been a regifted gift. I just spent $200 for you and your guests to come and you guys must have given me $40 back.”
"A giant jar. Just a jar." -- Jon1renicus
"The Lamp. There was no name tag attached to it, so no idea who gave it to us, but it was made out of a bunch of pebbles all glued together in a less-than-artistic manner. I think it was supposed to be kind of nuevo-Black Forest or something but it was hideous and went straight in the garbage." -- pair-o-dice_found
"My wife's friend bought us an ashtray even though she knew we both weren't smokers." -- malleus_maleficarum
"I got a chocolate fondue fountain from someone who wanted it for themselves. And I mean she put it on my gift registry herself. It ended up in the trash." -- HissingPixie
"When my parents got married, my mother's uncle gave them a set of bed sheets. More specifically, a mismatched set of sheets for a twin-sized bed. When my father called the manufacturer to ask about buying a la carte to make multiple sets (just for fun), the woman on the other end said, 'I've worked here for 32 years and I've never heard of that line.'" -- rockytopreb
"A hat box (pink and orange paisley pattern with fuzzy balls on the borders.) Inside was a thick heavy family bible, three pocket bibles, a sun catcher, two cans of salmon and an incomplete set of drinking glasses." -- DarrenEdwards
"One of the guests gave us a towel. Not a set of towels. Not one towel for me, one for him. A single towel. Needless to say I, as the wife, claimed it as mine." -- enygmaeve
"We got an anonymous letter (which we figured out was from my wife's kinda crazy septuagenarian aunt) full of really bad sex tips. Also a book about astrology as it relates to weddings. Apparently we did everything wrong. That one went straight to Goodwill." -- reallybigc
"My sister got my husband and I (athiests) a bible. She spelled my first name wrong in the inside cover." -- frogdogmama
"I was the person who gave the worst gift. I wasn't even able to afford food at the time so I chose the cheapest thing I their registry, $25 for 4 short drinking glasses and I brought it to their expansive wedding at a huge Catholic church and their fancy reception at a Marriott. I don't think the husband knew I was broke, and his wife had never met me before so I was probably listed as their cheapskate friend." -- arbitrary_cantaloupe
"'The Ultimate Guide to Getting it On' with a note explaining it was to help us out in case we "didn't know what to do." Thanks, Jed." -- StChas77
"A check that bounced, so it was a gift of -$35." -- brerjeff3
"My husband's wealthy uncle gave us a used coffee thermos and a yellow bath towel. Very strange. We found out years later that he gave my husband's brother the same thing at his wedding 6 months after ours." -- changachoo
"Not the worst, but my friend gave us $100 cash. All in nickels." -- ZestfulShrimp