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Purity Balls: The Girls 'Gifting Their Virginity' To Their Dads

19/11/2017 03:49 GMT

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COLORADO SPRINGS, CO - MAY 16: Dave Lorrig dances with his daughter, SarahRose, 7, on May 16, 2008 in Colorado Springs, Colorado. The annual Father-Daughter Purity Ball, founded in 1998 by Randy and Lisa Wilson, focuses on the idea that a trustworthy and nurturing father will influence his daughter to lead a lifestyle of 'integrity and purity.' (Photo by Marvi Lacar/Getty Images)


Purity balls... no, it's not one of Christian Grey's gadgets in 50 Shades of Grey. The opposite, in fact - it's a special ceremony where a girl pledges to remain 'pure' until her wedding day. In doing so, she 'gifts her virginity' to her father until marriage (luckily, ours prefer socks or a Top Gear box set).

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COLORADO SPRINGS, CO - MAY 16: Fathers accompany their daughters as they place a white rose representing purity at the foot of the cross on May 16, 2008 in Colorado Springs, Colorado. The annual Father-Daughter Purity Ball, founded in 1998 by Randy and Lisa Wilson, focuses on the idea that a trustworthy and nurturing father will influence his daughter to lead a lifestyle of 'integrity and purity.' (Photo by Marvi Lacar/Getty Images)


These balls originated in the US (where else?) and can now be found in 17 countries. They bear a slightly squicky resemblance to wedding ceremonies, with the girls - who are all around the age of 12 but can be as young as seven - usually wearing white gowns for the event.

To add an extra 'ick' factor, official guidelines advise that the ceremony take place when the girls are 'just old enough to have started menstruating'. If there's anything more embarrassing that your dad knowing about your period, it's then having to take a virginity pledge in front of him...

At the ball, the fathers - known as 'protectors' - present their daughters with purity rings representing their commitment to virginity. And finally, the ball ends with a father-daughter dance. Which is probably as much contact with the opposite sex these girls are going to get until they walk down the aisle.

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COLORADO SPRINGS, CO - MAY 16: Robert Moore poses for a photograph with his 9-year-old twin daughters Lauren and Elizabeth on May 16, 2008 in Colorado Springs, Colorado. The annual Father-Daughter Purity Ball, founded in 1998 by Randy and Lisa Wilson, focuses on the idea that a trustworthy and nurturing father will influence his daughter to lead a lifestyle of 'integrity and purity.' (Photo by Marvi Lacar/Getty Images)


According to the ceremony, purity means the daughter will have no sexual contact of any kind until after marriage. And dating and kissing aren't allowed until they are ready for marriage, which we imagine leads to a wedding night with all kinds of surprises.

One of the largest purity balls in the US has been held for 14 consecutive years at the Broadmoor Hotel (no known relation to the mental hospital) in Colorado Springs.

There, more than 60 fathers pledge 'to protect their daughter's choices for purity'. There are no details on what this entails, but we imagine it involves a lot of sitting on the front porch with a blunderbuss on your lap.

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COLORADO SPRINGS, CO - MAY 16: Steve Clark reads the 'Purity Covering and Covenant' to his fiance's daughter, Ashley Avery, 17 on May 16, 2008 in Colorado Springs, Colorado. The annual Father-Daughter Purity Ball, founded in 1998 by Randy and Lisa Wilson, focuses on the idea that a trustworthy and nurturing father will influence his daughter to lead a lifestyle of 'integrity and purity.' (Photo by Marvi Lacar/Getty Images)


A criticised for promoting the notion that the daughter is a possession to be protected by her father until she is 'given' to her husband.

Some ceremonies even involve the daughter being given a bracelet with a heart-shaped lock, to which her father holds the key until her wedding day, when he hands it over to her husband.