Insecurity doesn't make you a mess. It makes you human. It can also make you one insufferable mum bitch friend from hell.
Insecurity, as you embark on your journey of motherhood, is going to run rife. No one needs to know this more than a first-time mum. As we navigate the minefield of first time motherhood one thing becomes apparent. There are two types of mum friends. Those that will support, nurture and encourage. Then there are those who will criticise, throw self-doubt around like it's confetti and make you question every decision you ever made.
Here are five things that were said to me during my first few months of motherhood. I can recall feeling upset upon hearing them as self-doubt welled up inside me.
- "You've named her WHAT? That's so common right now!" Take a deep breath. She needs to criticise your choice of baby name because she chose to call her baby Leo, and now there are three of those at play group. She's regretting her decision and projecting that regret onto you. Just smile sweetly and say "How cute are all those little Leos?"
So to the mother that can't seem to go a day without inflicting her own insecurities on other mums. Look, we get it. You're having a hard time. This motherhood thing hasn't turned out to be all you'd hoped. It's not been a walk in the park for you and it hasn't been for us either. Having a hard time does not give you the right to dish out disdain at our choices and decisions.
Motherhood is hard. We're all dealing with our own demons. The last thing we need is to be burdened with everyone else's. We're all just trying to get by. If you can't say anything nice, then with all due respect, piss off.