Dear Fit-Shaming Mum

26/09/2016 17:00 | Updated 27 September 2017

How long did it take you to find me
and then to troll me online?
Maybe when I was doing a workout?
It probably took the same time.

Yet, me taking time to exercise,
means I'm selfish and a terrible mum
I'm not interested in bonding
I'm more interested in shrinking my bum?

What makes you think you know me
and know my parenting style?
From the one pic you found on my insta?
Yes, I know, you think I'm vile

So I care more for my figure
I spend hours in the gym?
Because more important than my baby
Is me getting thin?

My reasons for exercise are private
And they are mine alone
Just like yours are for shaming,
Other women at home from your phone

But I will give you some insight
In the hope it will explain
That me choosing daily to exercise
Is NOT because I'm vain

I struggle with depression
There are somedays that I cry
But working out for just 10 minutes
Will lift my spirits high

I have 2 other children
Now this baby makes it three.
So surely it's so much better
If they get a happier me?

Is it wrong to want to be healthy
For my kids who are growing up?
So I can run, chase and tickle them
Without feeling tired and give up,

I want to feel healthy and happy,
I don't want to cry and feel sad
Exercise lets me do this
Tell me, why is this so bad?

It's really not about skinny
Or fitting my pre-baby jeans
It's all about me being healthy
When my kids are grown up in their teens

That photo won't show you our playtime
Or how we jump through puddles of mud
How I read them to sleep in the evening
And how as a mother - I am really good

You didn't see how tired I was
Or that this morning we played a game
You didn't see a mum, like you
That you have chose to shame

Did you ever stop for a moment
To really think this thing through?
Or is this not really about me
Does it say a lot more about you?

I didn't post this pic with you in mind
I'm too busy "working out" you see
But here's some advice I will give you
Worry more about you and not ME