Am single and have been for quite some time now, years in fact. I don't think I am a complete trog in the looks department. I'd say I am relatively normal and can hold together a conversation. I've had the odd flings from bar meetings - I once told a stranger she looked great when she danced then left the bar for a cigarette (so I didn't seem creepy) , she later said it was one of the coolest things she'd heard. She gave me her number, we hooked up and had a good time , twice!
So in my past I've proven to myself that it can be done , its rare but I can approach someone I don't know and hit it off.
It does however get harder with longer work hours. Bars aren't really all great for meeting people anymore, profit margins matter so packing the venue to that sweaty / stifling point is key. Has anyone pulled on the tube in rush hour?
Theres also the matter of age , as I get older obviously the women who find me attractive are going to be within a certain threshold. An old teenager or young twenty something is certainly not likely to find me attractive and to be honest its very rare now I find someone that young appealing . Nowadays I gravitate towards mid - late twenties onwards (am in my early thirties so not too unrealistic) an age group with a reduced number of available women.
Problem with being single is most other people don't seem to be. It feels lonely, and no matter how nice that song by Olive was, we are sometimes alone.
The age of the internet means that anything niche can be filled and anything exploitable...well u get the picture. Single folk are worth big bucks and theres websites out there that know it.
Its not their fault but no matter how good they are they cannot give you a tale to tell the grandkids.
"How did u meet grandma grandad?"
"Well [really cannot think of suitable names for my fictitious grandkids] I remember her profile stood out from the others , so much so I immediately reworded my 'about me' section to comfortably match hers, waited over a day for my changes to be approved by the site admin team, then sent a wink , got one back from her so without thinking twice I upgraded my membership so I was able to contact her'
"Your a wanker grandad"
I have awful fictitious grandchildren :(
Now there will be success stories and I don't want to knock anyone who successfully coupled up over a dating site. I have had no joy , am clearly quite bitter so am having a whinge. But I do mean what I say.
I want a good story to tell, but those bastard websites are an irresistible offering of hope . I keep finding myself going back, browsing headshots of beautiful women who won't give my messages a second thought. I'll write some crappy lines , maybe ask something about their work or try and work in something relevant about their [yawn] hobby or......
You can see the problem. I cannot write to strangers on a dating site My weak and crippled ice breaker will simply 'ding' quietly off the hardened sheet of solid frozen water with absolutely no hope of standing out from the crowd.
I have to stop using dating sites, they don't work for me. A message comes my way I won't ignore it ( will damn near rejoice ) but if I have to stop myself , and I really must, from using these dignity wrecking yards of sites, then I must know why in my head, I must have a reason. What I am sticking with is simple...
......I want a good story to tell
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