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Womb Service And The Fourth Trimester

09/09/2016 11:34

The Baby-moon, the first 12 weeks post birth, are sometimes referred to as the 4th Trimester. It has come to be known as this (quite illogical really!) because during the first 3 months of their life, your new beautiful bundle will often behave like they are still in the womb; they have their eyes closed, are asleep for most of the time and only wake up to have their needs met.

Somewhere around the 3 month mark your baby will begin to "wake up" from this new-born state and will start to interact with their new and very exciting environment by smiling, intently watching faces and communicating with us in ways other than crying. Some babies of course do this way earlier than 3 months!

During their 4th trimester, babies are making the transition from life as they knew it in the womb into life in the big, wide world. These two lives are very different from each other and it can take some time for your baby to adjust to their new environment and life on the "outside." Your baby was in your womb for 9 months after all and that's a life time to a brand new baby!

Your womb was the perfect environment for your baby and their needs were met instantly, I like to call this womb service! Womb service meant that your growing life:

Was nourished constantly with the exact amount when they needed it

Was naked and wet

Was the optimum temperature at all times

Heard muffled sounds constantly

Was close to you all the time

Was soothed by your constant heartbeat and motion

Slept when they needed with no concept of night and day

Felt safe and secure in a small, confined space

Now let's have a look at life outside the womb.

Now your brand new baby:

Experiences hunger and waiting for their food

Is dry and fully clothed, often in many layers!

Feels slight changes of temperature in their environment and experiences hot and cold

Hears frequent loud and unfamiliar noises

Is put down or passed to other people that aren't you

No longer feels your constant motion or hears your heart beat

May not be able to fall asleep easily anymore as we try to get them on to our day and night time zone

Has the freedom to move around and is in a much bigger space

Whilst your new baby will find their new environment a very exciting and stimulating place, it can leave them feeling just a little overwhelmed and insecure.

These feelings of insecurity can make your new born baby very unsettled in the 4th trimester. This is perfectly normal and with a little love,time and patience your baby will gently adjust to their new life.

Replicating womb service can help make your baby feel safe and secure helping them to settle, easing them and you through the 4th trimester.

How you can replicate Womb service

Keep your baby close to you

It is natural for a baby to want to be near you; their source of everything: food, comfort and safety. Your presence and touch calms and soothes them in an instant. It is normal for a new born to cry the instant they are put down and stop the moment you pick them up. They aren't manipulating you nor are you spoiling them or making a rod for your back by holding them close and cuddling them. A sling can be a life saver during this time because they will close and secure leaving you to move around with your hands free.

Let them sleep on you during the day

It may be frustrating when your baby's eyes ping open and they start bawling the moment you transfer them to a Moses basket, however it is perfectly normal.

Babies sleep better on us because our proximity, warmth and heartbeat soothe them. There are no bad habits to be made and you can support them to sleep in their cot once they are a little older IF that is what you want to do.

Follow their lead and don't worry at this stage about getting them into a routine

It is less stressful to go with your baby's needs in these early days; it can be very frustrating trying to get your baby on a routine that doesn't fit your baby. Keep a note of feed and sleep times and you will see you baby already has the perfect pattern for their needs for you to build into a routine.

White noise

Putting on white noise, mimicking womb noise, can instantly calm a fretful baby. I have used running taps, hairdryer, oven extractor fan, fan or hoover with great success!

Shushing and patting

Patting and shhhhing noises mimic your heartbeat and helps soothe your new baby.

Skin on skin contact

Having plenty of skin on skin contact is bond boosting and is a natural calmer and soother.

Have a warm bath together with the lights dimmed

This a great bonding experience for both with all that skin on skin!

Daily fresh air and natural light

Babies are born nocturnal and can take time to get on our time zone. You can gently introduce day and night to your new born by getting lots of natural light, going outside and making noise during the day and at night keeping the lights down low, muted volume and calm.

A note on crying

New born babies cry: A LOT! It is their only way of communicating with you. It doesn't necessarily mean they are in pain, that you are doing something wrong or a reflection of your parenting. Smile, be reassuring and comfort your baby whilst talking back to them can really help.

Congratulations on your new arrival and enjoy your baby moon!

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