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Five Things Women Wish Men Knew..

14/07/2014 13:22 BST | Updated 12/09/2014 10:59 BST

1. No candlelight dinners for first dates.

Dinner and candles might sound nice, but in reality it can be slightly overwhelming for a first date, especially if you met online. Keep formal or romantic dinners on standby for when mutual attraction has been established. When we are getting to know a guy we want an atmosphere that lends itself well to the experience. so pick a first date location that gives you that opportunity. A busy bar or an 'activity based date' such as bowling or Karaoke is not only less formal, but because there's lots going on you will both find it easier to find things to talk about PLUS it will encourage you to both relax and be yourselves . First dates can be awkward, so prevent awkward moments with some pre- planning.

2.Choose bespoke compliments

Or should I say avoid endless generic compliments and replace them with just one unique compliment.

You will not win a woman over with throw away pleasantries such as "you have lovely eyes" or "You have beautiful hair" .These type of compliments will make you come across as a 'people pleaser' and generic compliments can often indicate a generic personality. Look out for something that we have made an effort in. This could be our makeup, our choice of shoes or the overall style that we have taken the time to create, rather than something that has been bestowed upon us as a result of a 'lucky gene pool'. Keep your compliments detailed and bespoke. A compliment that is made to feel that it has been constructed for her and only her , will make much more of an impact.

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Kezia Noble ( in photo above) has helped over thousands of men find success in their dating lives

3. Women love a flirt

With each generation, men are getting worse at the art of flirting. Many men think that flirting is sleazy or creepy, but the reality is, a good flirt makes us feel good. It also helps move the interaction in to the direction of something less platonic and more exciting. A good flirt will be unashamed about he feels, and will be able to recognise the fine line, that when crossed ,leads to overkill. Always remember to add humour to some of your flirtatious comments, and keep in mind that timing is EVERYTHING. Holding her gaze for a little too long after you flirt can make her feel uncomfortable, because she feels she has to repay the compliment. Instead, change the subject, not out of embarrassment, but because you know that flirting is not there to create awkwardness, but

to add playfulness which leads to some much needed chemistry.

4. Your body language must be congruent with your words.

Attraction is 70 percent NON-verbal. You could be the best conversationalist on the planet, but if your body language and energy is weak or lacks confidence, then whatever you say will be dwarfed by this factor. Keep an eye on what your hands are doing, are they showing your nerves? Does your posture scream out insecurity? Is your eye contact that of a confident man or a terrified young boy? By changing your body language, you will find that your emotions and frame of mind will gradually follow suite. So even if you're feeling nervous, make sure you force yourself to tweak your body language so that your energy can get the boost it needs.

5. Never make yourself OVER available.

She wants to meet you for another date? Great! Now your'e happy and willing to sacrifice most the days of the week to see her again right? This is a BIG mistake guys make when they meet a girl they like. Never make yourself too available. Always convey the fact that you have a lot going on in your life, and that although you want to see her again, this does not mean she automatically becomes your main priority. If you do make her a high priority too soon, she will not appreciate the time she gets to spend with you as much. A man who conveys the fact that his time is limited and precious will find that girls are far less likely to flake on him when it comes to follow up dates, PLUS we love the chase too.