Here we are again...! Another new year... another set of resolutions!
How on earth did it come around so quickly! I still haven't quite got stuck into the resolutions I made at the start of last year yet! Oops...
Crikey - it's so easy to feel a failure isn't it - so easy to look at everyone else with their acts together (or so it appears)... in the gym, glowing faces, bouncing around all over the place - but really is that what's actually going on behind closed doors? Who really knows!?
Comparing is never a good thing... Ok, it's good to have goals and aspirations but ideally they should be based on small steps forward for ourselves - independent from anyone else and definitely not forged on potentially artificial projected external images nor ludicrously high self-imposed expectations. Life becomes so much harder when we set ourselves such tough goals - often leading to a gloomy sense of failure or inability to achieve. So why not scrap the massive resolutions this year and go for some of the small steps I mentioned... I know thats what I'll be doing anyway!
It was back at the end of last year (just a few weeks ago actually), that I felt I was losing myself in the muddle of routines and the ongoing friends/family/household juggling act. I remembered all the little things I used to do back when i was single, living on my own in my own little flat, when I just had myself to worry about! Of course I'd never turn back the clock, never change what I have now for the world, my lovely husband and two little poppets running around my feet - no - but I can't deny that I do miss some of the 'me time' I used to have.
There and then, I decided for my own sanity, that I would pick up just a few of the things that I used to love doing, things that made me feel good and I would force myself to fit them in to my routine somehow - or should i say 'allow myself' to do them. So often we put ourselves at the bottom of our priority list and frankly I don't think it's always the right move. So I made a little list. 'New Year' resolutions for me always spell out 'pressure' and I'm not so good with that, I don't perform well when the pressure's on, as can be seen by how far I've got with last years' resolutions (still barely scribbles in a diary!) so these would just be positive steps... starting from right there and then when I wrote them.
- one thing was taking a few minutes for myself in silence to lie on my bed and switch off each day
- another was to have an epsom salts bath or a fancy fragrant one once in a while (without allowing a whole year to pass)
- another was to write down things that I'm grateful for, read over and appreciate them to put things into perspective
- another was to put myself first more
Happy 2017 everyone! Enjoy it! and please... go easy on yourselves!
...and ps: no - I'm not doing dry January.