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Changing the Lives of Child Brides and Young Mothers in Africa

Posted: 11/07/2012 00:00

As a child growing up in the UK I was entitled to an education and had the freedom to make choices about the opportunities that came my way.

But while I was studying at school, dreaming of all the things I might do in the future, young girls like 13-year-old Tanzanian Sikujua, were learning to take care of their husbands and babies.

Now 17, Sikujua explains that she was forced to marry a much older man because her father was sick and needed the money to go to hospital - it is common place for the groom to pay the father a 'bride price', which is usually a gift of cattle.

Although shocking, her experience of being a child bride and an extremely young mother is all too common in Tanzania, particularly in the Mara region.

I recently visited the Children's Dignity Forum on the edge of Lake Victoria to discover how Comic Relief and the UK government are changing lives through their jointly funded Common Ground Initiative.

The initiative works with members of the African Diaspora - those with African heritage and strong links to the continent - who have set up organisations which aim to change the lives of those who need it across some of Africa's poorest countries. FORWARD are a UK based women's organisation led by people of African heritage. They support Children's Dignity Forum with funding from the Common Ground Initiative.

Dr Monica Mhojam, co-founder of the Forum, tells me that although the legal age to marry here is 15, it's normal for young girls in this region of Tanzania to marry at 12 and 13 to help get their families out of poverty.

The Forum is working tirelessly to give girls the confidence and knowledge to make their own choices about when to marry and start a family. Statistics show that girls under 18 are five times more likely to die giving birth than women in their 20s, demonstrating just how dangerous early motherhood can be for these young teens and the vital importance of this project.

Another consequence of early marriage and pregnancy is that girls usually lose their chance to an education.

They are often taken out of school to care for their new husband and babies, and it's within these households that they are often subjected to physical abuse.

Young and scared, Sikujua had to endure daily violence from the hands of her alcoholic husband. Eventually she found the courage to run back home and is now living happily with her new husband and two children.

She credits the Children's Dignity Forum for giving her the confidence to take control of her life and avoid being forced into another bad marriage. As one of their peer educators she now encourages young girls to avoid the pitfalls she encountered.

Monica, 50, wants all girls and young women like Sikujua to be free to avoid early marriage and pregnancy and have the choice to finish education, get a job and aspire to a better future.

She now lives in Scotland with her family and works as a lawyer, but having been born and raised in a Tanzanian village, where many of her friends were forced to marry as children, she is perfectly placed to understand the issues here.

As a member of the African Diaspora, she wants to show communities here that girls don't need to marry and have babies at such an early age. "if they're educated they can get a good job and help their families financially, as I have done, " she says.

Monica is a true inspiration and I feel so privileged to have been invited here to meet her, Sikujua and others like her.

It's clear to see that thousands of children and young girls are hugely benefitting from the Children's Dignity Forum and the work of African's living in the UK.

Thanks to funding from the Common Ground Initiative fewer girls are becoming child brides and having babies so young, saving precious lives and helping to reclaim their futures.

 
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08:43 PM on 07/12/2012
During the 70s we sent Millions of pounds of money on Aid to Africa. Those old enough will remember collecting silver foil for Blue Peter/Magpie and the rest.

During the 80s we sent Billions in Aid to Africa. Remember Band Aid

During the 90s we sent Billions of money in Aid. (Sports AId, Red Nose etc)

During the 00s we sent billions of pounds in Aid. (Remember how Gordon Brown gave them Billions so they young of Africa could get an education)

Currently this Government is trying to bring into Law that the UK give 1% of its GNP in Aid to other countries

Meanwhile Pakistan and India not only have more Tanks,Planes, Ships than the UK. They have a growing Nuclear arsenal in the case of Pakistan they have more. India has a space program and we give these countries billions in Aid.

Some people on here quote that we need to educate the third world, more like we need to educate them on the fact that charity begins at home.
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Tell the truth ,regardless
07:29 PM on 07/11/2012
I'm old enough to remember the in Biafra.This went on for years ,people being murdered ,hacked to death ,shot ,the usual what happens when it's tribal.Finally it was "settled " Most papers stated ,"things back to normal" Think it was the Guardian that asked the question ,what is normal ? The answer was 100,000 a year dying of starvation .That was in the late 60's.Now tell me ,with all the millions that have found their way to Africa,how things have improved? People still dying ,tribal wars still going on ,corrupt Govt officials,Presidents still stealing money given generously by the west.I have been there,actually seen it in North West and South Africa.All I can advise is dont give anything,let them sort themselves out.The West's money is used to buy weapons and power,not help the people
05:25 AM on 07/12/2012
Family planning education, free birth control pills and schools for girls ends the lunacy that keeps this going on. For the cost of a few air craft carriers the world would have a hell of a lot less people and a hell of a lot less misery and a hell of a lot les war. And people like the pope will be seriously annoyed.
06:30 PM on 07/11/2012
Different country, different people and a different culture, we are constantly told to except foreigner's and there way's into this country, and we criticize there practices in there own country.
We should keep our nose's out of foreign affair's unless it affect's us in our own country.
04:40 PM on 07/11/2012
Why do we keep sending money to countries who support this kind of behaviour.? Not that we can expect everyone to adopt our way of life,but surely women of any religion should never be treated in this way. They kick up such a fuss about being made slaves of many years ago,but they are doing the self same thing to their own womenfolk. Total hypocrits,they don't deserve any financial help from us.
04:45 PM on 07/11/2012
that is a stupid and senseless remark by educating people we help to create a people who are capable of thinking for themselves although sometimes I wonder when I see so called educated people like yourself coming out out wiht inane comment like you just have and it makes me despair of humanity
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Salander12
An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind
05:28 PM on 07/11/2012
Perhaps there should be a Dignity Forum programme set up in the U.K. to reeducate people like lawtet and fans; addressing their ignorance about world affairs and the part that colonialisation has had in creating Africa's governance problems in all it's forms.
02:12 PM on 07/11/2012
It is a terrible thing, so we should stop sending money to Africa to prop up their wars and corrupt governments, and use the money to prevent this sort of thing going on here, and yes it does, because the immigrants do bring their behavior with them.
02:10 PM on 07/11/2012
Whilst I feel so terribly sad for their plight, throwing yet more money their way is not going to be a resolution. Money, here, is being taken from the sick, the disabled and the elderly in order to fund these donations to other countries and, in my opinion, it is shocking. I reiterate, I feel extremely sad for these children, for that is what they are, but it is the responsibility of the country's leaders to take affirmative action not us. I, too, want to see them helped but not at the expense of our sick, disabled and elderly. There are surely, better remedies than this? In the end, the money we donate, tends not to reach the people in need anyway, so why cause our own vulnerable people so much misery in order to make the leaders richer?
08:17 PM on 07/11/2012
Oh really, shame on you. No-one, and I mean NO-ONE, in this country lives a life anything like the majority of people in Tanzania or any other third world country.

They live on less than $1 a day. Point me to anyone in this country in anything like that predicament.

They have nothing. Nothing at all, except the clothes they stand up in, sometimes a pair of shoes, often not. They live in shacks that are virtually empty. No beds, the occasional chair, no electricity, no running water, hot or cold, no toilet, no TV, no books, no games, no pictures, no carpet and no floor to put a carpet on.

Also, no food. They struggle to earn that $1 every day because there is no permanent employment, ever. If they don't make it they don't eat. There is no welfare system, nothing at all to live on, except the money that you are 'shocked' we pay. Shame on you. really.

There is certainly no money to pay for doctors or drugs if anyone gets sick. It's the children under 5 that die. In multitudes. Infant mortality in Tanzania is 20x the rate in Britain. It's 30x in Afghanistan. There is no NHS, of course.

If you wanted to know this, you'd probably have spent the 5 minutes online required to find out. By all means, continue to consider these people less worthy of life than we are.
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08:27 PM on 07/11/2012
They should steralise all the females and stop the breeding right away.Money sent there is a total waste,nothing has improved.Children are the ones left to suffer.
07:53 AM on 07/12/2012
Strong opinions you have. I understand their plight but it is not the responsibility of British people to bail everyone out. We have built a "safety net" here and now it is disappearing because we are overwhelmed with others. What they suffer is unbelievable but they still have energy to make too many babies, increasing their desperate plight. I have deepest sympathy for those with so little but, they have leaders and it is up to those leaders to help their people. British taxpayers have been throwing money at Africa for years now and nothing changes. The money never gets to the desperate so what is the point? If British vulnerable people are so damaged by Government cuts, and money taken from the British goes into pockets of leaders of these blighted countries, everyone suffers. There must be an answer and taking from our vulnerable to give rich leaders in Africa is not it. I am not cruel, I am fair and reasonable. Would you condemn an elderly or sick relative, to death, in order to "help" a stranger abroad? Particularly when it goes into the pocket of some rich leader. I don't think so. We can all be idealistic and empathetic, but it does not help to destroy our own vulnerable system, to pour money into the pit of greed. If everyone in the world provided an answer that would be great. Unfortunately, the British cannot be the benefactors or policemen of the world. I am just being realistic.
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12:40 PM on 07/11/2012
How about once and for all getting rid of the absolute corrupt leaders in Africa - I have spent my entire life being asked to donate money to Africa and so far nothing on the ground has changed and the billions of pounds has achieved a group of mega wealthy leaders who want for nothing and give nothing. STOP throwing money at this continent and get in some proper management!!! How on earth can such a corrupt monster as Mugabe still have any semblance of power. You want change and success in Africa - start by getting rid of those monsters at the top!
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Alec Falconer
God save our queen.
10:15 AM on 07/11/2012
It is not going to happen,both for trible reasons,and for my favourites the Roman catholic church.
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Alec Falconer
God save our queen.
08:29 AM on 07/12/2012
Cheers.
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Alec Falconer
God save our queen.
08:30 AM on 07/12/2012
Thanks.