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Does Your Family Celebrate Valentine's Day?

12/02/2010 21:12 | Updated 22 May 2015

I'm not really turning into a Grumpy Old Woman, at least I hope not, but there is one date coming up on the calendar that I avoid, giving you the impression that I might be a bit of a misery.

Instead of romantic prose, beautiful roses and cards in our house on Valentine's Day, it will be... just another ordinary day. But don't feel sorry for me.

I prefer it that way.I don't know if it's me or if February 14th has become a much bigger deal in this country, much in the same way that Halloween has.

From reading blogs written by mums across the pond, I know that Valentine's Day is a big deal in America and I sit at my computer looking at their preparations a bit bemused.

Indeed, many of the ones I visit are full of heart garlands, tutorials on how to make cards and even ideas on suitable presents to give classmates. All of them!

I know it's only a bit of fun, but it can be expensive fun. And it does feel like pressure to be romantic and do something special and, well, that just brings out the awkward side of me.

Succumbing to some unknown pressure that perhaps it was a bit mean not to give my children a card, I stayed up late last year making them all one. I think they were a bit bemused too. I may have bought my husband one, but I can't really remember.

This year I won't need a special date to remind me to tell my loved ones how much I love them. And no, you won't be finding me staring into my husband's eyes across a candlelit table while all around us other couples do the same. "Overpriced claptrap", he says and I tend to agree.

Of course, I can appreciate how lovely it is to lift a bit of winter gloom with something special, but that's what Pancake Day is for (not that we stick to Shrove Tuesday to eat them either).

My miserable ways naturally do not extend to Mother's Day or Father's Day. Children don't see the need to be grateful, which is as it should be as being loved and nurtured is their right, but it doesn't hurt to get them to appreciate mum or dad occasionally.

One of my children wanted to know when Children's Day was. At first I scoffed, declaring that every day felt like Children's Day at our house but thinking about it, she may have a point.

What do you think, do you like to celebrate Valentine's Day or do you think it's commercialised hype?

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