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Why I'm Proud to Be an Abortion Doctor

Posted: 14/06/2012 00:00

I work for BPAS, the UK's largest abortion provider, talking to women about and performing abortions up to the legal limit every day. I ended up being an abortion provider after caring for several women during my training who were intentionally pregnant but had complicated medical or social circumstances. These cases demonstrated that, while pregnancy can be a wonderful and exciting thing, for many women it can be a severe burden, physically, psychologically and socially. These burdens should only be borne by those who wish to do so.

Someone has written that a woman wants an abortion like an animal stuck in a trap wants to chew its leg off. While the imagery is melodramatic, it conveys the panic and stress an unplanned pregnancy can impose. Perhaps it also communicates something of the relief experienced by women after their abortion; this is one of the things that make being an abortion provider so very rewarding.

While unplanned pregnancy is disproportionately common in socially disadvantaged groups, women of all classes, cultures, religions and ages need abortions, and the circumstances are always persuasive. When women request abortion later in pregnancy there may be particularly compelling social reasons or fetal abnormalities. It is painfully ironic that these women, who one might argue are in greatest need, might be unable to have an abortion if gestational limits were lowered.

Politicians are very concerned by women who have more than one abortion. But just as every woman having an abortion is different, so are the circumstances of a particular abortion for an individual woman. Women having more than one abortion are described by the press as irresponsible or immoral; the facile pejorative characterisation of the repeat offender. Newspapers often fail to consider the notion that fluctuating, complex social circumstances which we all experience can lead anyone, including responsible, conscientious people, to need more than one abortion.

But the real people having abortions and their circumstances don't make good headlines, although if they were written about they would each make their own convincing argument for the morality and legality of abortion. The statistics, abstract philosophical arguments and outdated legal framework which are more standard media fare are of little interest to a woman who needs an abortion or the doctor who feels compelled, ethically and emotionally, to provide it for her. Sadly, this kind of discussion not only stigmatises patients and their clinicians, it distances us all from the challenging human reality of unplanned, unwanted, or abnormal pregnancies.

 
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I work for BPAS, the UK's largest abortion provider, talking to women about and performing abortions up to the legal limit every day. I ended up being an abortion provider after caring for several wom...
I work for BPAS, the UK's largest abortion provider, talking to women about and performing abortions up to the legal limit every day. I ended up being an abortion provider after caring for several wom...
 
 
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Barbara Longstaff
01:43 PM on 06/17/2012
To madejust4you, I am not deciding about women having abortions, I am just stating my opinion which I am entitled to, so please do not put words on paper which I have not said. The price of condoms in the family planning clinic is FREE so there is no excuse there. The Pill is free if you are that poor and on income support. Religion has got nothing to do with this arguement it is my opinion but yes I do believe that God man us and God will dispose of us as and when he sees fit, nothing wrong in believing in something even pagans believe in something. In my days we did not have sex education but my daughter did in her school and she took noteice of it too. She is not married with a son as she only wanted one child so she uses protection a micro-chip or something inserted in her arm every 5 months. Rape I agree is a terrible thing and up to the individual to decide what should happen I do not of someone who was raped had a child and it was adopted into a loving family wo could not have children and that child today is a very happy lovely boy.
10:34 PM on 06/16/2012
I am proud of you for your work and proud of you for speaking out. Please carry on doing this vital job.
02:28 PM on 06/16/2012
My mother used to say you play you pay. So she had all of her children to term. The fact that she was immature, mentally ill, and loved child molesters did not do her children any favors. She lost custody of all her children some of us were adopted, some of us through the foster care system, and some of us were homeless until we picked ourselves up by the bootstraps. I am very successful and happy at this point in my life. I am a mother, a wife, a home owner, with a full time job I love. However my childhood was so painful that given the option of suffering in the womb or suffering through my childhood again, I would opt for my mother to have had an abortion. It would have been a lot less painful. My mother eventually committed suicide, it was her children she never cared for who were responsible for her funeral expenses. I was honestly relieved when she passed away. I saw her six months prior to her suicide and she was so severely addicted, that I grieved her that month, I knew she'd never get better the last day I saw her alive. I knew she was completely miserable. So I spent every day worried about my mother from that day forward. There are times where death is less painful than life both for yourself and those around you.
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Sandra MacKay
02:54 PM on 06/16/2012
I hear you and I know how you feel. Being raised by a mentally ill mother can leave long lasting scars. Had my mother been given the choice, I would have preferred she aborted me rather than have me suffer the life I have. I'm doing much better these days, but it's taken decades..
09:45 AM on 06/18/2012
But hold on there. Neither you, nor your mothers, and especially not the doctors are given the right to take or give life. No human being can create a living thing. So logically thinking no human being should kill a living thing, right? Sorry for bringing out the christian card, but you do sound like tiny egotistic gods.. "if I had a choice I wish my mother had aborted me".. No you wouldn't. Humans crave life. If anyone was to come and say "Hei i can kill you, would you like me to?". Would you really say: "yeah, go on. Here's a knife, slice me up, man".. Rubbish.
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Ben Wilson
09:38 AM on 06/16/2012
I love this idea that abortion is some kind of anti religious agenda, when in our part of the world one of the most infamous and constantly repeating stories which encouraged Abortion legalisation was Catholic women getting back alley abortions in Ireland
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Laatab
All The Worlds A Stage
07:07 AM on 06/16/2012
Surely in this day and age it's so sad to see a debate like this. Weather one is for or against cant people agree that the best way forward is to focus on more prevention of unplanned accidental pregnancy. I mean, whats going wrong in that area? With the contraception and all the education and knowledge available in the public domain why are so many women caught out?

The part I dont like is abortion being carried out by for profit by private clinics. Thats just plain wrong in anybodies book.
10:32 PM on 06/16/2012
"The part I dont like is abortion being carried out by for profit by private clinics. Thats just plain wrong in anybodies book."

Then you'll be pleased to learn that this rarely happens in the UK. BPAS is a not-for-profit organisation which carries out abortions on behalf of the NHS. Marie Stopes, the UK's second biggest abortion provider, similarly has charitable status. Between them, these two charitable organisations carry out well over 90% of the UK's abortions - without making a single penny of profit in the process.

So many women are caught out because there's so damn many of us! If you have a method of contraception that is 99.9% effective, then 1 woman out of every 1000 using it will fall pregnant every year. There are roughly 20 million women of childbearing age in the UK. If they all use contraception that is 99.9% effective, you can expect to see about 20,000 unwanted pregnancies per year.
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Laatab
All The Worlds A Stage
11:15 PM on 06/16/2012
Thanks for that reply. The actual figues for Britain though 190.000 plus abortions in 2011. I understand what you are saying here and dont wish to undermine it. But off the top of my head, if boys and girls, at the appropriate age, were shown film of actual abortions taking place, might that not help. It's a bit coarse I know, but if that might strengthen young adults resolve to not let it happen to them, and it lead to a reduction in the demand for abortion, surely that would not be a bad thing. Perhaps theres a better way, I hope there is, but it seems to me any strategy that does not impinge of freedom, that results in reducing this statistic is a helpful thing to both society at large and the individual.
04:03 AM on 06/16/2012
only sick and morally empty person can be proud to be an abortion doctor. aren't abortion doctors the low lifes of the medical profession? i honestly don't know how anyone destroying human life can be proud of it. even animals are better, they don't facilitate abortions.
06:10 AM on 06/16/2012
Right? Some animals eat their babies alive when stressed. Let's take an example from them, people.
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Sandra MacKay
02:54 PM on 06/16/2012
Amen..good one..
04:45 AM on 06/17/2012
animals don't have abortions, at least that's one thing that puts them above people that do.   plus, animals don't have the reasoning powers of human beings, which is even more commandable that they don't have abortions. as far as eating their own offspring, animals are ruled by nature, humans are capable to go beyond the natural instincts.
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Ben Wilson
09:33 AM on 06/16/2012
No most animals have a habit of eating the weak once born.
04:46 AM on 06/17/2012
which ones? i'd like to learn something about biology today.  even if animals eat their offspring, human beings are capable of living to higher moral standard than animals, but in this case, there the ones that have fallen below the animal kingdom.
04:52 AM on 06/17/2012
so humans should do it to? evolutions of rights i suppose. humans unlike animals have faculties that make them capable of making right decisions - from what i've seen here many people don't even know these faculties exist.
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utalkin2me
Ph.D anthro and behavioural sciences
07:50 PM on 06/15/2012
if you don't like abortions, don't have them...and don't tell other women they shouldn't have the choice....im pro-women....fn religious nuts...i love that religion is losing its iron grip on society...you have had your time in the sun, and now its time for you to step aside....you have done more to hinder mankind then to move it forward...and as anyone with half a brain knows, you can't stop progress...either evolve with mankind today, or become extinct....i know they are going to love that one!
03:57 PM on 06/15/2012
Big kudos to the author of this piece, you deserve to feel proud of your work.

Helping people at one of the most stressful and terrifying times in their lives, with no thanks from anyone, has got to be a challenge day in and day out. And that's to say nothing of the very real threats against your safety for doing your job from anti-abortion terrorist groups that governments quietly tolerate.

Helping people exercise autonomy over their bodies is always a worthwhile mission.
09:54 AM on 06/18/2012
Seriously? .. "Helping people at one of the most stressful and terrifying times in their lives.." Do you think the baby in the womb is just chillin' when she's being wiped off the surface of this planet? Talk about stress and terrifying times.. Oh wow. "So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God." Romans 12:14. Are you going to say to God: you know, I am proud I was an abortion doctor, destroying what i didn't create, taking lives without being able to give one. Yey. Smart one.
02:30 PM on 06/18/2012
If god existed at all, and I was an abortion doctor, you're damn right I'd tell him that I'm proud of my work. God himself doesn't have the right to dictate to anyone what they can do with their own bodies, and to force them to sacrifice their body to anyone else. We are capable of knowingly choosing for ourselves, and that is the source of our right to do so.

The only thing someone can be called who wants to control your body like that is a tyrant, in the worst possible way. If god cares about that, he doesn't deserve worship. If god doesn't care about that, then it would be wrong to abstain from that work. And if god doesn't exist at all, it doesn't matter.

No matter the case, we are free and morally responsible to ourselves to understand right and wrong independantly, even if some 2000-year old book says otherwise. If god starts damning people for doing the right thing, then choosing damnation is our highest moral obligation.
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Pondering panda
03:03 PM on 06/15/2012
I also have a big problem with the whole "Its Gods will and only God can intervene.." Will if Doctors cannot relieve a woman of an unwanted pregnancy I hope that when you fall ill you will keep that in mind and not seek out medical intervention because... "It's Gods will"
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Pondering panda
02:44 PM on 06/15/2012
I'm reading a lot of comments here from women or people who know someone who has been trying to get pregnant for how many years and cannot and are adamant pro-life.... Is it because you cant get pregnant that that choice has been taken that makes you want to take away another woman's choice?? Or is mentioning your struggle meant to make your argument more justified? I don't see it and I'm not moved. All women have a choice. There will always be people that make poor decisions (using abortion as a form on contraception) but that should not affect all women.
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Sandra MacKay
02:55 PM on 06/16/2012
Good argument..faved!
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Barbara Longstaff
01:05 PM on 06/15/2012
Well I am sorry Raz72, I am religious but not weird, what right has this doctor to take a life that in my view is murder. The people who get themselves pregnant have no excuse, there is so many protective facilities on the market and then there is the aftersex pill, why wait until they are pregnant and then kill.
No human being has the right to take a life that is for the Diety to decide. I am sorry but after working in a place where they did roughly 10 abortions a day I feel someone has to stick up for the unborn baby. Maybe some of these women shouild sit with their legs crossed, then they won't get into trouble.
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Phatbiker
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02:23 PM on 06/15/2012
"That is for the Diety to decide", That is for the imaginary, invisible bronze-age sky god to decide, there fixed it for ya.
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05:33 PM on 06/15/2012
I am so tired to the "bronze-age sky god" phrase, so thrown about by ones who don't seem to have the requisite education to be so condescending. It is a thoughtless put-down that sounds smart but isn't.
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09:59 AM on 06/15/2012
Life is ultimately a series of choices that we must all make before we die. Everyday we all make choices that will make our lives easier, who are we to say that another persons choices are wrong?

If you are pro-life and you feel that abortion is not an option for you then that is your choice.

If you find yourself with an unplanned pregnancy and feel that you cannot provide a quality of life for your child (emotionally or materially) then you have the right to choose a termination.
Why should a woman feel pressured to have a child that she knows she cannot care for adequately? Surely this is irresponsible.

And before someone shoots me down with the answer " Not using contraception is more irresponsible", you cant pressume that women who seek an abortion have all been having unprotected sex. No method of contraception is 100% effective.

I am thankful that I have never been in a position to require an abortion, but I am also thankful that if my circumstances had been different; I live in a society that allows me a choice.
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02:30 PM on 06/15/2012
“Life is ultimately a series of choices that we must all make before we die” And thank whatever deity you wish that we had a life before we die, and not end up as waste in an abortionists bucket and die before we had a life.
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02:40 PM on 06/15/2012
If you die before you had a life, then you weren't really alive then were you?

In which case, abortion should be legal, as we're not really taking a life if it hasn't started yet. That really is the question here, when does life begin. If it begins before it leaves the womb, then we assume women are no more then vessels. Since women are people, life begins after the womb. Done and done.
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acerpalmatum
08:15 AM on 06/15/2012
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE THE ULTIMATE CHOICE ABOUT ABORTION-IT IS HER BODY-HER DECISION,AND NO-ONE ELSE`S WHAT SHE DOES ABOUT AN UNPLANNED PREGNANCY .
09:20 AM on 06/15/2012
Very good argument acerpaimatum, but many of these women are using abortion as a form of contraceptive and go back and back again. I have a daughter who had extreme difficulty getting pregnant in the first place and I now have a grand daughter and my daughter dearly wants another child, but sadly this isn't going to happen because her chances on IFV have run out, ie it costs too much and do you really think that she likes to hear about women having abortions and there are many many thousands more in the same situation.

I have always been against abortion not only because of my daughter's situation but I feel very strongly that they should ONLY be carried out when the Mother or child would be in danger or if a really handicapped child was due to be born and NOTHING ELSE, otherwise it is simply murder and nothing else.

These women must realise that contraceptives come first not sex and abortion which is wrong.
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Thismortalcoil
Science is the poetry of reality
11:04 AM on 06/15/2012
While some women may have repeat abortions, it is very easy to prove that they are in a minority.

If, as you claim, abortion is widely used as a form of contraception then there would be more abortions in countries where it is available on request.

Here in the EU, on request countries have an abortion rate of 11 per 1,000 women.

Countries, like the UK, that restrict access have a rate of 12.3 per 1,000 women.

The US, despite its restrictions on abortion, actually has twice as many abortions per 1,000 than the Netherlands where they have abortion on demand.

You're right that contraceptives come first, and while no form of contraception is 100% reliable, better sex education is the key to reducing the number of abortions, not silly hysteria.
03:20 PM on 06/15/2012
Yoy do realize you're arguing for eugenics right?
If you're okay with the concept of Terminating a pregnancy in the case of a severely handicapped child, or potential thereof, you're okay with Abortion period. Who are you to decide the value or quality of someone else's existence? So it's not murder if the child might be handicapped? Nice line of thought there...
By the way, I'm totally pro-choice. The only person who has to bear the consequences of an Abortion is the woman who chooses to have one. I don't care if it's her first or eighteenth. I have NO right to tell a woman what she can or can't do with her body, and neither do you.
Also for the record, I think IVF is abhorrent. For those families unable to conceive, Adoption, particularly of all those unwanted children many people would like to force women to birth, is always an option. But like I said before, nothing to do with my body, so I have no right to judge...
06:48 PM on 06/17/2012
Why the shouting caps on, ah well.

Sorry but I totally disagree. Don't you think that the father of the due baby should have a say in the matter if he is on the scene that is after all he did have something to do with it so that means that it is not just her ultimate choice at all.

I do understand that in some cases abortion can be the only thing possible, but my opinion is that that should only be performed if the Mother or child are in danger, any other abortion is pure murder and nothing else.

Some women are continually getting pregnant and going having yet another abortion which in my book is wrong. This has been specifically proved that women are doing this so please don't come back saying that the numbers are small because they certainly are not.

You would think that contraceptives hadn't been invented the way some women are repeatedly having abortions, I know they aren';t 100% perfect but my guess is that quite a high percentage of abortions are not because of failed abortions but just because they couldn't be bothered at all.
03:38 AM on 06/15/2012
You now have to do selective abortion in India! That would be the cherry on top
07:33 PM on 06/16/2012
And Canada. ( No rules against it ). Don't understand the cherry comment though.