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When Did it Become a Crime to be Well Brought Up?

Posted: 06/12/2012 00:00

I appear in an E4 TV show called Made in Chelsea. Its premise is simple; it follows the lives of several young 'socialites' in what is one of Britain's most upmarket postcodes. It's glamorous, diverting and, hopefully, a bit of fun for viewers.

So I'm always slightly taken aback when I learn, usually from TV critics and commentators, that in fact, rather than appearing in innocuous, distracting, light entertainment, I'm actually engaging in bloody class warfare. Pass me a helmet.

If you believe the detractors, my MIC colleagues and I are 'gilded socialites', 'spray tanned exhibitionists', and 'privately educated, hedonistic' youngsters whose lives are a 'seemingly endless jaunt around London's most exclusive bars, restaurants and health clubs'.

Well, how very dare they!

When did it become a crime to be well brought up in financial comfortable circumstances and be lucky enough to attend a good school or university? Here, in modern Britain, apparently.

Do the stars of any other TV show get treated this way? By that I mean like stereotyped, gormless mannequins for other people's class prejudices and bias. Well yes, actually, they do.

You only have to look at the hugely successful show, The Only Way is Essex to see those same rampant class prejudices. Except, er, this time it's the other way round. Just as we're over-privileged and undeserving, living off someone else's hard work, the TOWIE stars are portrayed as acquisitive, nouveau rich wannabes, desperately trying to get rich.

Hang on, can you have it both ways? For what it's worth, I don't think so. It's lazy, narrow-minded and backwards looking. And it's clearly one of the aspects of Britain that foreign visitors find most bizarre.

More importantly, is it fair to use TV shows enjoyed by millions of viewers as, at best, a social commentary, at worst, a blunt object to batter people over Britain's perceived class divide?

Take it from me; just as the stars of TOWIE aren't all fake tan-obsessed, pneumatically boobed clotheshorses, we're not all Sloane Rangers or trust-afarians on MIC.

I might have gone to a good school, have a fairly RP accent and successful family, but that doesn't mean I'm some sort of rich, shallow, champagne swilling dilettante.

During the first three series of Made in Chelsea I had a nine to five role as a PA - okay, it was at a hedge fund, but it was a job - and I worked bloody hard, fitting filming around my spare time.

West London's not the centre of the world for me. Yes, it's upmarket, the streets are swept and there's no graffiti, well not much though we'd love a Banksy or two, hint, hint, but it's also filled with lovely, hardworking and friendly people and, most importantly, it's home.

Chelsea was once London's bohemian quarter. Artists like Rossetti, Whistler, Singer Sargent and others all lived and worked around the King's Road and Cheyne Walk. Oscar Wilde lived in Tite Street in Chelsea in 1884.

Bankers might have superseded the artists; the writers replaced by film stars, and the biggest homes sold to Russians, but the friendly, creative atmosphere survives.

There's a certain type of reverse snobbery in Britain that suggests if you're not working class and gritty you're not a real person. It's especially prevalent in our view of television and people who appear on the small screen.

Yes, times are tough economically. People are suffering. It's easy to joke that in Chelsea that means giving up the second Lamborghini, but it's deeper than that. But criticizing - and hating - people because of where they were born, who they know or where they went to school is the politics of envy, pure and simple.

Whatever Conservative MP Andrew Mitchell - who lives in Islington, by the way - might think, we don't go around casting people as toffs or plebs, in or out, upper or working class. People are either classy or they aren't, it's that simple and birth, money and position really doesn't come into it.

People are just people. Whether we're Made in Chelsea or Essex.

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I appear in an E4 TV show called Made in Chelsea. Its premise is simple; it follows the lives of several young 'socialites' in what is one of Britain's most upmarket postcodes. It's glamorous, diverti...
I appear in an E4 TV show called Made in Chelsea. Its premise is simple; it follows the lives of several young 'socialites' in what is one of Britain's most upmarket postcodes. It's glamorous, diverti...
 
 
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06:04 PM on 12/03/2012
I don't think society sees it as a problem to be wellmannered and rich. I guess the way you flaunt it is what causes people to criticize. it is all in relation i guess....however I would love to see Binky live in a 3rd world country for a month! I havent watched the show so I don't know if you are spoilt or not, but I think that living in one of the world's poorest postcodes may empower you to help others. (Just in case that sounded like a dig, it wasn't I feel EVERYONE can help make the world a better place a tad more).
03:47 PM on 12/03/2012
While I agree with Binky that there is a 'reverse snobbery' in Britain about the middle class, it does sound a bit rich coming from her.

Shows like Made in Chelsea & TOWIE are only around because of the class divide & the stereotypes that come with this, so if it wasn't for this snobbery she wouldn't have a job...
11:04 AM on 11/30/2012
There is nothing wrong with inheriting wealth or getting a good education, it's only when people flaunt it and have a lack of empathy for the struggles of others that I get angry. At the end of the day, people who hate on you are just "well jel" ;)
08:17 PM on 11/09/2012
I have never watched made in Chelsea, nor would I. I purposely avoid all reality television and most of the "competition/reality" shows, with the exception of master chef; I have no idea why I find that more palatable. In regards to the premise stated in "when did it become a crime to be well brought up?", I would like ask having read your article are you confusing being well brought up with peoples disdain for inherited privilege and advantage. I think no one considers it crime, except when it is flaunted in peoples faces and inequality becomes clear. I went to several Universities and studied Science based subjects successfully at each. I went to a comprehensive and my adoptive parents were both teachers. We as a family have no inherited wealth, my adoptive mother went to a Grammar School, her father was a skilled manual worker and my adoptive father passed a full scholarship and went to a minor public school. I would say we were all "brought up well", despite incomes which would not allow us to live in Chelsea. In the early nineties I would regularly bring food to the homeless around South London, I was say it's less a crime to be brought up well and more a crime to stand by and let others with less advantages in life suffer.
10:10 AM on 11/09/2012
This article is a joke right? I've only watched the program once at the behest of a friend who said it was a reality show. Which it is not I saw a scene in a bar which must have used about 5 different camera positions to film it. The dialog was continuous and due to the camera angles and mirrors in the bar it could not have been shot with 5 cameras rolling. The scene must of been filmed in takes using a story board thus it is not a reality show but a carefully crafted mocumentary like Spinal Tap and is meant as a satire.
08:19 PM on 11/08/2012
Well said. Sadly, you only have to look at the comments below to further emphasise some of the points you have made. You're not asking for people to feel sorry for you, just for people to accept you for who you are, and not for your background. Something that the guys from TOWIE would ask as well. If you don't like someone, make sure it's for their personality, not what [you think] they represent.
08:00 PM on 11/08/2012
Forget about the class war, I think the generation gap is widening by the day. I'm 44 now, so by the time I draw my first pension I will probably get shot on the way to the post office in front of a police station.
07:02 PM on 11/08/2012
and i also think you are kind of saying that poor people are not well brought up and other familys are financially stable whereas some poorer ones are, the Made in Chelsea cast are rich..
07:01 PM on 11/08/2012
i enjoy made in chelsea a lot, i don't like a few of the characters but i love you however i do not agree that because people go to private schools that they are better, some state schools are just as good and the teaching is as good however there are smaller classes and most people have more pressure from parents and private tutors in private school, plus what good is learning latin anyway. i think however the friendship groups and what happens in made in chelsea is exactly the same as me and my friends only a bit more glamorous. plus i like the drunk scenes.. more of them please! ;)
07:49 PM on 11/08/2012
It would be nice if you could punctuate your post with some sentences and paragraphs! AND capitalisation is nice too.
05:20 AM on 11/07/2012
I sometimes watch Made in Chelsea you Binky are the only person on the show that I like. That said, I think you are missing the point about why people have a problem with you and the other characters on the show. There is nothing wrong with being well brought up and going to a good school. People across class boundaries luckily have that chance. The problem is that you guys do not behave like well brought up and educated individuals. You are all spoilt rotten, self-indulgent and ungracious. You behave in a very nuveaux riche kind of way, by squandering all your money on fancy cars, spa weekends because Chelsea is just so stressful and so on. Well brought up people know better. I have plenty of friends with the kind of money MIC members seem to have and they are elegant and discreet about it because besides being rich they happen to be well educated.
10:45 PM on 11/08/2012
I think you're forgetting the fact that MIC is only a glimpse into these people's "real" lives. I put "real" as everyone knows that its just constructed reality but unfortunately a lot of people - you included, seem to forget. You need to start taking the show and what we view with a pinch of salt. We only see a small snippet of what is actually going on, and what we actually see is no doubt, for the most part manipulated by the production team to make the audience view a character in a certain way. As you say, make them appear "spoilt rotten, self-indulgent and ungracious". The spa weekends, numerous holidays etc are all part of the show and the entertainment. You have to remember that we, as the audience have no idea how these people behave off-screen in their day-to-day lives around their true friends and family
11:50 PM on 11/06/2012
Um... if you're all that well-educated... can't you please tell me why you haven't proof-read, and noticed your mistakes here... ' financial comfortable circumstances'... please fix, I find it offensive.
Honestly, and you have a job.
07:50 PM on 11/08/2012
Ahem, you should proof read before you post too, for example : "can't you please tell me" ??????
08:21 PM on 11/08/2012
Talk about hypocritical. Is there anything worse than a pedant that makes a pile of mistakes in their own post?
04:02 PM on 11/06/2012
"We're all middle class now" means hating on the over- and under-classes. 'Class' does actually exist, alongside status, keeping it real, you feel me?

What on Earth are 'the politics of envy'?!

Sounds psychological, and somewhat self-deluded too.

'The nail that sticks out will be hammered down...'
...did I mention that we're all middle class now.

So if you want neoconservative/third-way socialism as the two 'opposing' poles of political philosophy, along with all the politically correct, culturally-relative and expediently capitalistic crap that comes along with it, you have to accept that 'we're all middle class now'...
...and the nail that stands out will be hammered down, just like how it is in Japan.

So we can all have our raw fish-cake and eat it.

'One Piece' is still the best show 'on TV' anyway.
07:07 PM on 11/04/2012
All these programmes are just an example of cheap television, cameras following utterly unremarkable people around as they carry on their vapid litle lives, quite frankly these programmes make my skin crawl and I try to avoid watching them at all times.
08:00 PM on 11/02/2012
I love Made in Chelsea, watching everyone else's problems instead of my own is great and I understand some scenes are made for our entertainment, but I think that you and Ollie are probably the most genuine cast members. Some of the others are constantly worrying about who did or didn't turn up at who's party and what did or didn't go down. Like the situation with Millie and Hugo the way that was dealt with was clearly to see who could attract more attention....the drink in the face, millies announcement at the party. Then Funda walking in on Caggies performance. You however turned up at a pyjama party dressed in actually pyjamas which you look pretty good in, everyone else in skimpy lacy neglegees that were not meant for sleeping in.
08:28 PM on 10/29/2012
I like the sound of Binky:) Are you single??