Few things in life are as hard as a break-up. Having your heart broken is not for wimps. Yet everyone will go through it at some point. Being left by someone you love will leave you bereft, but you will survive. Here is the Frost guide to healing as quickly as possible.
Give yourself time to mourn.
Nothing stops the end from being so hard.
When something ends in your life, no matter what it is, it is going to hurt. The end of a relationship is the death of that relationship and you have to give yourself time to mourn. However, only give yourself a few days, a week maximum to really mope. After that, go out a lot, join some classes, talk to your friends, exercise, or even just spend an evening watching a good boxset or reading magazines. Treat yourself and be kind. You are fragile so treat yourself as well as possible.
Cut him off.
When someone hurts you, react. Forgiveness comes later. Keep your dignity at all times, but don't let yourself be manipulated. There is a reason you broke up.
Delete him on Facebook, stop following him on Twitter. Delete his number, his email from your contact list, cut him off. If he doesn't want you in his life, then he doesn't get to have you as a friend. Don't settle for second best. He will probably want to keep you around and have you as a 'friends with benefits' but you are worth more, don't do it.
Remove him from your life with surgical precision. Sell everything he bought you on Ebay and use the proceeds to go on a holiday with your girlfriends. Get ride of every mementoes. Change your surrounding as much as possible and have a clear out. All of this will help.
Some people think you can be friends with an ex. Maybe you can after a long period, But, I think, the only reasons two exes can be friends is if they still love each other, or if they never did.
Don't just rebound with the next guy.
Having casual sex will just make you feel worse. Embrace the good things about being single, not the meat market aspect. You will be a different person from who went into the relationship. Give yourself some time to grow and settle into yourself.
Remind yourself what you didn't like about him.
Write everything down. No one is perfect and there are things he done that drove you mad. Did he play computer games all day? Watch football? Whatever it is, that has also gone from your life too. Thumbs up.
Take note of what you did wrong in the relationship, the mistakes you made. Learn from every bad experience. It takes two people to destroy a relationship. Your next relationship will be the better for it.
Enjoy being single.
Embrace all the great things about being single. Do all of the things that you love that he hated. Go out and flirt. Flirting is fun and there are a lot of amazing men out there. Go out and date. Enjoy yourself knowing you have no ball and chain.
Know that everything will get better and that time will heal. After removing him from your life and embracing your new one, let go. Nothing good comes from hanging onto the past. Go out and live your life, knowing that you are better off without him.
My final piece of advice is to not let a bad man ruin you for a good one in the future. There is a good man out there for you. If you become bitter, he wins. Always know that even in the darkest moments that there is a good man out there for you, and one day you will find him. Just keep searching and live your life.
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