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The Five Dating Mistakes Everyone Regrets

13/01/2015 13:18 GMT | Updated 15/03/2015 09:59 GMT

As a leading Dating Coach, I'm all too aware that for most people, the road to finding love is a long and tricky one. The dating process is full of trial and error. Yet, the mistake that most people make is constantly going through the trial part and not learning from the errors that follow along. To make your next date a successful experience that may just open the door to possibilities and opportunity, below are my dating expert five biggest dating mistakes that most people regret. Reviewing these mistakes and not falling into them can be just what you need to increase your chances in finding love.

Talking About Your Ex

Nearly everyone has been burned by an ex-lover and the pain can sting most if the wounds are still fresh. While jumping into the dating scene is always a good idea if you are trying to move on, those who jump in too early tend to talk too much about an ex. The best thing to do is to avoid the urge to discuss an ex-partner during your date. I'd advise you to talk to a friend before your date to "vent" about your feelings. Your date is all about spending time with you to get to know you, not to get to know your past relationship history. If your date is successful and a relationship ensues, of course there are times that you can touch upon the subject of your ex. Just not right away.

Too Much "I"

A person's biggest fan his themselves and it is completely understandable. Yet, when it comes to dating, some people have the terrible tendency to start every sentence with "I." Rather than fall into the trap of talking about yourself too much and over sharing, take a step back and consider your date. To show genuine interest and to signal that you care about the date, alternate between each talking about yourselves. The most successful daters find a steady balance.

Commitment Too Soon

Another big dating mistake that most people regret, particularly women, is stressing commitment too soon. When going into a date, try to keep words like "marriage," "commitment," "children," and "wedding" out of the conversation. The purpose of a first date is to get to know one another, not get hitched. If want to get married immediately then a dating agency may be a good idea for you.

Negative Attitude

I teach my dating coaching clients that positive energy breeds more positive energy. This type of saying applies well beyond life in general, it also applies to your dates. Many people regret going into a date with a negative attitude and pessimism. Having a negative attitude effectively ruins the mood during the date and signals to your date that you aren't interested in being there. Rather than let the stresses of life seep into your date, taking some time to relax before your date can easily remedy this problem.

Give People a Chance

Many people are far too quick to judge their date at the first meeting, only to after regret passing up on a good opportunity. The issue is that many fail to realise that there is much more to a person beyond a first five minute impression. Therefore, even if you may not have a positive first impression, try giving the person a chance and get to know them for who they are. You most likely won't end up regretting it.

Dating is difficult, but with the above dating expert tips, you can have the successful experiences that you are looking for. You deserve to find love and this is only going to increase your chances that your dates will be enjoyable so that you don't have regrets later on.