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Five Tips for Mature Daters Breaking Into the Dating Game

28/08/2013 17:30 BST | Updated 28/10/2013 09:12 GMT

Finding love later in life isn't impossible. In fact, it's a lot of fun if you play your cards right! Here are five tips for mature daters breaking into the dating game.

1. Manage your expectations.

Perhaps you're a widow who has lost the love of their life and you're afraid that nobody you meet could possibly make you feel the way they did. This might be true, but it doesn't mean that you should spend the rest of your life alone. Nowhere does it say that you need to fall head over heels in love (although if it happens, great!) but wouldn't it be nice to have an activity partner, someone to spend time with and flirt with? Don't compare one relationship to another, they are all perfect in their own right, if you let them be!

2. Enjoy the process.

No matter what age group you're in, dating can be a bit of a pain. Wondering if the person you are interested in is interested in you back is nerve-wracking no matter how old you are! The best part about being a mature dater though, is that you've been here, done that! Instead of worrying about things you can't control, sit back and enjoy the process of putting yourself out there and getting to know new people.

3. Be open to change.

If you've been in long-term relationships or married, chances are you're used to a very specific type of partner. While it might be comfortable for you to seek out dating relationships with the same kind of partners, it's always refreshing to switch things up! Don't put yourself in a box, and don't be afraid to take chances. Different isn't synonymous with bad. What you needed when you got married thirty years ago might be a lot different than what you need as a mature dater. Keep an open mind and heart!

4. Try online dating.

One of the best ways for single mature daters to meet is via an online dating site. Sure, there is always a chance that you'll meet the next love of your life at a bar or bump into them in line at the grocery store, but it's rare. With online dating, you can be very specific with your searches, so you only interact with other mature singles who share your interests and hobbies. Don't let online dating intimidate you, either. If you can read this post, you can sign up for an online dating site.

5. Make it known that you're looking for love.

Tell your friends, coworkers and children if you have them that you are hoping to meet someone special. This will prepare them for the possibility of you starting a relationship-and will weed out any negativity early. Your friends and family might initially feel shocked that you want to branch out in to the dating game, but they won't take long to warm to the idea. It's just best to give them a bit of warning before you bring your new love interest to the next family dinner!