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Six Ways to Tell if You Should Sleep With Him

19/09/2013 17:12 BST | Updated 19/11/2013 10:12 GMT

Whether you've been dating someone for a while or it's your first online date, part of what makes dating so exciting is the possibility, if ever so slight, that you might end up in bed together. However, just because you can doesn't necessarily mean you should. Ladies, here are six ways to tell that you should sleep with him...or not.

1. You're extremely physically attracted to him.

Let's just get this out of the way, shall we? There is simply no point in sleeping with someone if you aren't intensely physically attracted to them. Your first sexual experience together should be nothing short of electric, and physical attraction plays a huge role in that. Just because you can talk to someone for hours and share the same interests and hobbies doesn't mean you will be a match in the bedroom. If you don't think he's the hottest thing you've seen lately, don't waste your time. And vice versa, gentlemen.

2. It's your decision.

Before stripping down, take a minute to consider your motives. Are you sleeping with your date because you are afraid he'll stop calling you if you don't? If you're having sex for any reason other than you really, really want to, take a step back. Remember that sleeping with a guy isn't a guarantee that he'll call you or ask you out again.

3. You're being safe.

I know, I know, what a boring, lifesaving tip. Safe sex is the only type of acceptable sex to have.

4. You're emotionally ready.

Being physically attracted to your date is one thing, but you also need to make sure that your emotions are ready for all that sex brings..yep, it's more than just an orgasm. Sleeping with someone strengthens bonds and emotions that much faster and can be very confusing, especially if it's a new relationship. It's crucial that you have the emotional stability to separate what happened in the bedroom with what is truly the state of your relationship. One wild night of sex does not equal love, nor does it equal exclusivity or the promise of a future together.

5. You're fun in bed.

Ok, obviously even if you're a total bore in bed you're still entitled to have sex, but if you're a blast under the covers you shouldn't hide your talents! Most men would thank their lucky stars for the chance to spend the night with a woman who knows how to enjoy herself. If you're confident, passionate and know what you want, there is no reason at all that you should hold back when it comes to sex.

6. They are as interested in YOU...as you are in them.

Have you ever hooked up with someone whom you could tell wasn't 100% into it? If so, is there anything worse? I think not. Knowing that the person you're kissing is probably dreaming of someone else is like a punch to the gut. The best cure for that? Knowledge! Before you go out with a date, here is a quiz to take to determine just how interested in you your date really is. Will It Be Your Lucky Night? A "Yes" will give you the confidence boost you need to take the next step, while a "No" will prevent you from making yourself look silly. A win, win, really.