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Christian B&B Was Right Not to Give a Gay Couple a Double Bed

Posted: 26/10/2012 00:00

An 11-year-old atheist hit the headlines last week because he wanted to join the scouts but didn't want to pledge to do his duty to God. I'm a Christian, so I don't share this boy's lack of belief in God. But I do believe people should, if you'll pardon the expression, practice what they preach. The boy is trying to be consistent.

For the same reason, I support the Scouts for not giving way. The Scout Association has had a religious ethos for 105 years and faith remains a core tenet of the movement. If you believe something is important, stick up for it. Good on 'em.

That's why I also back Susanne Wilkinson, the Christian who runs a B&B from her family home in Berkshire. She believes in the importance of marriage and so she doesn't want to give double beds to unmarried couples. She's trying to be true to her beliefs.

But last week a judge ruled that her policy was unlawful. The judge said it had discriminated against a gay couple, Michael Black and John Morgan. The judge accepted that Mrs Wilkinson's beliefs were genuine (i.e. not just a convenient excuse) and that she had also applied the policy to unmarried straight couples.

The judge, however, ruled against Mrs Wilkinson because the law has been written so rigidly in favour of gay rights. She was ordered to pay £3,600 in damages to Mr Black and Mr Morgan for injury to their feelings.

Mrs Wilkinson was just trying to be true to her deeply held beliefs. She was trying to be consistent. As she herself says, Christianity isn't just for church on a Sunday, it's for every area of life everyday.

Yes, Mrs Wilkinson opened her home to the public as a B&B. Yes, she wasn't forced to do it. But that doesn't mean she must park her beliefs, and it doesn't mean the house ceases to be her family home. This isn't some faceless mega-chain of hotels. She lives there with her husband and children. Surely, there should be a bit more flexibility so that people can live according to their own values under their own roof?

The fact is, we live in a society where different people have different beliefs about all sorts of things, including sexual ethics. All of us have an opinion about what's right and wrong when it comes to sexual behaviour. We all draw the line somewhere.

But the law is increasingly taking sides in this debate, and those who hold to a traditional belief about marriage are on the receiving end of the law's inflexibility. And there is a real danger that liberal dogma is being imposed on people who hold to more traditional values.

Just consider the ridiculous case of Adrian Smith, the housing manager who was demoted by his bosses at Trafford Housing Trust losing 40 per cent of his salary just because he said on his private Facebook page that gay weddings in churches were "an equality too far".

Mr Smith is trying to recover his lost earnings and his case was heard by the High Court in Manchester last week (it was due to be heard in the County Court, but it got an upgrade on the day of the hearing). The judge's ruling is expected in the next few weeks.

Clearly, it is time for an honest debate - a debate about civil liberty for people who go against the new liberal orthodoxy. Equality has begun to intrude on other people's human rights, and it is high time there was a bit more balance.

 
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07:57 PM on 12/19/2012
She broke European law. Article 14 of the European Convention on Human Rights specifically prohibits discrimination on the basis of sexuality in the provision of services.

Oh, and the Scouts are changing their rules to accommodate atheists, because unlike some organisations, they recognise we now live in the 21st Century, not the 15th.
03:10 PM on 12/19/2012
Discrimination based on sexuality is a violation of civil rights, you buttmunch. Typical response from a while male Christian who can't even begin to imagine what it's like to be in a minority.

Jesus' mum was a pregnant, unmarried teenager. Guess there's no room for her at this inn, either.
09:06 PM on 12/18/2012
So, Mike, if a Mormon ran a B&B and had a sign reading "No blacks" in the window, that would be alright because their beliefs back it up? Pull the other one, it's got bells on.
07:42 PM on 11/26/2012
This is a conflicting issue because there are really two distinct issues here.
One is about sexual morality and the other is about services to the public.
Christians take their moral standards from the Bible (at least they should) which would lead them not to engage in fornication whether heterosexual or homosexual (the Bible is clearly against all homosexual activity). Any household can make its own decision as to what standards they live by and who they invite in.
However when it comes to offering goods and services for money then there can be no discrimination on the basis of faith or morality. Otherwise a Christian shopkeeper might choose not to sell goods to someone whose morality they disagreed with. Would the apostle Paul (who was a tent-maker) refuse to sell tents to certain people? Can a Christian salesperson refuse to sell a double tent to an unmarried couple or a Christian travel agent refuse to sell a holiday to a homosexual couple? I think not. The difficulty for owners of b&b's or small family owned guesthouses arises from them using their own homes for business. Once they do this they cannot operate it purely as if it were only their home.
I say this as someone who generally supports the work of the Christian Institute.
05:15 PM on 10/28/2012
Seems like most of the commenters here have more sense than the columnist.

Anyone who is frustrated at the idea that "freedom to believe what you want" could genuinely be equated with "freedom to discriminate against anyone you like", by someone claiming to speak for a religion with a moral compass, may want to take heart.

Current academic estimates, including those of the church itself, predict that by 2050 fewer than 100,000 British people will be attending Church.

In other words, just be patient, and you'll hear this moral ineptitude gradually dying out in the years ahead. (If you're in the US... that's different. ^_^)
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12:29 PM on 10/28/2012
So according to you, everyone should be able to discriminate based on beliefs? does that mean you will be happy if we, agnostics (I know you don;t see the difference but this is different from atheist) decide to systematically decide to discriminate people based on the fact they have a certain belief? From tomorrow onward for example, followin your logic, we can decide not to hire any muslim. or any catholic? because they don;t agree on one thing with you?

Or does that mean you are happy to discriminate only in a sense but not in another?

You are basically saying that people should be able to decide if anyone is "worthy" of service based on their choices in life. Where is the limit?

That is pure demonstration of how untolerant religions are. Thanks for making that painfully clear and obvious.
09:24 AM on 10/28/2012
the concept of marriage has been around a lot longer than Christianity, yet Christians seem to think they have ownership of what can and cannot be considered a marriage. These people were paying customers, why should anyone have the right to tell them how their beds should be configured?
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Thismortalcoil
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04:12 PM on 10/28/2012
Sadly some (but not all) Christians seem to think they deserve more rights than everyone else.

Why do we still have 26 male unelected Bishops in the house of Lords when the majority of people in the UK don't believe in God?

Why are faith schools still subsidised with taxpayers' money when most tax payers don't believe in God?
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Philip J Sparrow
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01:06 AM on 10/28/2012
What would Jesus do?

Well, he was a carpenter, so he could knock you up a shelf. But people back then were a lot shorter, so it wouldn't be very high - not much use really.

Forget I asked.
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Philip J Sparrow
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01:00 AM on 10/28/2012
Christianity should not be encouraged
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jessjesskk
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12:30 PM on 10/28/2012
all religions. not just christianity
11:06 PM on 10/27/2012
The law does have to take sides, it is designed to do just that, or segregation would never have ended, and women would not have the right to vote.

It is tempting to say well lets just let people believe what they want to believe, but homophobia is the same as racism, and we are stunted as a society until we accept that. Sometimes, in fact more often than not, the law has to lead the way and set standards.
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Paul Wagland
Resistance is fertile
04:46 PM on 10/28/2012
Well said.
08:48 PM on 10/28/2012
Absolutely. I strongly believe that anyone who actually understands why racism is wrong could not be homophobic.
jhNY
Mercy.
09:49 PM on 10/27/2012
What is the law? Did the B&B Christian behave legally? If so, end of story. If not, end of story.
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Thismortalcoil
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01:13 PM on 10/28/2012
We have strict laws in the UK on the subject of discrimination. It is illegal to discriminate on the grounds of prejudice, so B&B owners would have been breaking the law if they refused people on the basis of race, gender or sexuality.
jhNY
Mercy.
06:58 PM on 10/28/2012
Thanks for the information!
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honeynutcornflakes
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08:03 PM on 10/27/2012
the question is, would jesus concentrate his efforts on:

a) tolerance or
b) discrimination
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12:32 PM on 10/28/2012
considering the old and the new testament speak about places and cities that have never existed, we can even wonder whether there was even a man behind a myth.
06:47 PM on 10/27/2012
"Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right" - Asimov.
06:31 PM on 10/27/2012
their house,their choice they dont want the business then thats their problem.
Hurt feelings what a load of bull,another case of compo culture britain.
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Thismortalcoil
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07:11 PM on 10/27/2012
Maddison

Firstly the men in question gave all their compensation to charity.

Secondly we have laws about discrimination and we all have to follow them. Prejudice is wrong.
11:38 PM on 10/27/2012
Would you say the same thing if these people refused to accept black people into their place of business?
06:21 PM on 10/27/2012
This view on these recent turn of events is so old fashioned, step in to the 21st century and realize that a lot of people aren't religious nowadays. It all seems so childish. I was in the cubs when I was growing up and I'm not religious in the slightest, so does that mean I should have been turned away too? I had a great time there, made lots of friends, engaged in lots of fun sports and activities, surely that is what its all about? why does it matter what an 11 year old's standpoint on religion is?

Christians always preach that god loves everybody, but yet you see biased behavior like this against non-Christians who share different beliefs. Another desire by Christians is for everybody to "see the light", go to church and become religious, but surely events like these are more than enough to put people off?

If I was that owner of the Bed and Breakfast, I would never turn anyone away even if I thought only married couples should be allowed to share a bed. Everyone is different, and everyone is entitled to their beliefs, so it is morally wrong to alienate people like this. I'm sure she would have classed it as an outrage if it was the other way round and it was her being denied a room.