Forgiveness

Ched Evans and the Double-Edged Sword of Restorative Justice

Calum Miller | Posted 13.11.2014 | UK Universities & Education
Calum Miller

There is no doubt that rape is a horrible crime. I would not have mentioned murder and terrorism in the same breath otherwise. But there is a lesson to be learnt here, and it is a lesson of double standards.

We (Don't) Have All the Time in the World

Paul Marshall | Posted 07.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Paul Marshall

There really is no reason for being tardy. So to all those people out there who are forever late, you better have a half decent excuse. Or have just dropped dead. As excuses go, I reckon that's as good as any.

An Open Letter to My Mother

Thuy Yau | Posted 19.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Thuy Yau

I wish you knew the pain you've put me through the last 26 years. The suicide attempts I once made on my life. The memories that haunt me. How I spent many years believing I was worthless. How I still hear your voice in my head sometimes telling me that I'm stupid.

Give Me Flowers Now, Thank You

Sonja Lewis | Posted 19.10.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Sonja Lewis

Flowers are one of the most straightforward ways of expressing appreciation, love, sorrow and grief. However, nowadays, for the latter occasion, many bereaved families, for one reason or another, request donations to a charity instead of flowers.

Open Relationships for Monogamous People

Louisa Leontiades | Posted 28.08.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Louisa Leontiades

There's a rumour going around, propagated by [some] polyamorists, that polyamory is a superior ideology to monogamy. Let's face it, 'limitless love' does sound wholly honorable and blissful, even if 'limitless sex' with multiple partners sounds ~ for most of our sex-negative society ~ quite the opposite.

Forgiveness Without Tears

Ruby Wax | Posted 25.07.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Ruby Wax

I woke up this morning with that agony that fills your body when you're deep in the depths of despair. There are people who think emotional pain isn't as bad as physical pain but here's the rub, there's empirical evidence that physical pain and emotional pain are registered in the exact same region of the brain.

A National Apology Day?

Kamontip Evans | Posted 21.07.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Kamontip Evans

Are you brooding because someone, somewhere hasn't said sorry to you? Or, conversely, are you feeling guilty because you wronged someone but were too shy or too proud or too late to say sorry?

Forgiveness, Christianity and Men's Violence Against Women

Karen Ingala Smith | Posted 22.05.2014 | UK
Karen Ingala Smith

Christianity like religions across the world reinforces and upholds patriarchy, forgiveness is just another of its tools. We do not need to forgive male violence against women unless we want men to continue to dominate women.

Why Parents Are Not Always to Blame

Pat Spungin | Posted 22.04.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Pat Spungin

There is no one right way to parent a child beyond the basics of love and boundaries. Children are born with different temperaments and ways of responding to the world and what works for one child is wrong for another. Most children are resilient and will bounce back but there are a few who are particularly vulnerable to addictions, psychological disorders and extreme behaviour.

The Muslim Prophet of Nazareth

Sajda Khan | Posted 05.08.2014 | UK Universities & Education
Sajda Khan

The common theological heritage and the mutual reverence of Jesus and his mother by both Muslims and Christians has sadly, become sullied throughout history as Islam and Christianity are often portrayed as implacable enemies, embroiled in conflict. The reality is, despite the troubled history. there have been epochs where Christians and Muslim have co-existed in peace.

Eldership

Nick Clements | Posted 08.02.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Nick Clements

I was recently at a friends 60th birthday party, and he said because of his age he was now an elder. I have to disagree, for me there are distinctive characteristics which mark out an elder. One of them is not seeking status, another is being content to be unpopular.

Haj - A Journey towards Unity

Sajda Khan | Posted 05.08.2014 | UK
Sajda Khan

It's that time of the year again when Muslims from all over the world heading off to Makkah for Haj -- the annual pilgrimage. I went last year and I, to date, reminisce about the ineffable moments of this momentous journey.

Chance Meeting in a House of God and Saying Goodbye

Samantha van Dalen | Posted 23.01.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Samantha van Dalen

My heart leaped straight into my mouth. I couldn't believe my eyes. I recognised that same gait, the quick, purposeful strides, the same petiteness. I jumped out of the car, the engine still running. "Sister Monique, Sister Monique! Remember me?"

Six Ways to Instantly Make Yourself a Better Person

Jamie Flexman | Posted 23.11.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Jamie Flexman

I have come up with 6 flaws that nearly everyone reading this will recognise in some form. Maybe you have been guilty of these in the past, maybe you know someone who does some of these things regularly. Maybe you are hurting someone right now and don't even know it.

How the Dogmatic Ideology of Forgiveness Can Harm Genocide Survivors

Noam Schimmel | Posted 22.08.2013 | UK Universities & Education
Noam Schimmel

The virtues of forgiveness in many different contexts of life are manifold and well known. Forgiveness can encourage and enable healing, peaceful relations, improved individual and social welfare, and psychological well being. But forgiveness is a personal choice and it must not be coerced, whether implicitly or explicitly. It is not a panacea.

A Hug's Message to Tragedy: "Move On!"

Tony Lobl | Posted 23.09.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Tony Lobl

Widow Debbie Dorling's husband was tragically killed by an HGV driver when both crossed red lights at an intersection. Instead of baying for justice when he walked free from court on Tuesday she wholeheartedly embraced the driver and forgave him.

Ending Hate and the 'War on Terror'

Bettina Gronblom | Posted 13.08.2013 | UK
Bettina Gronblom

We are caught in a spiral of fear, leading to more violence and not leaving enough room for love. So a big real part of the 'war on terror' is one which takes place within us. It is one where we let our fears lead us to hate. 'Fighting' our own fears then becomes the war worth fighting and the way we can stop this cycle of violence. And we need to start uplifting others along with us.

Sadness Steals Your Smile

Soila Sindiyo | Posted 21.04.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Soila Sindiyo

Start forgiving today and what happened yesterday will start falling away as you begin to feel, experience and know how it feels to be free of hate, anger and resentment.

Surviving Christmas

Esther Williams | Posted 29.01.2013 | UK Lifestyle
Esther Williams

I think it's really important to remember the reason for the season - whether you share the Christian faith or not. At the heart of Christianity are three words: love, peace and forgiveness. My thinking is that over indulging in any of these things is unlikely to result in stress, debt - or indigestion.

Mea Culpa Mechanics - Notes on What Makes Some Apologies Work and Others Fall Flat

Mark Fletcher-Brown | Posted 21.11.2012 | UK Lifestyle
Mark Fletcher-Brown

Sometimes people say sorry when they don't mean it. And surprise, surprise, people don't believe a word. So what makes an apology real? Here are some tests...

We Know Not What We Do

Liam Mullone | Posted 14.10.2012 | UK Comedy
Liam Mullone

You know what's lacking at this here Festival Fringe? Forgiveness. That's what. Good old-fashioned, out-of-style, ridiculous, uncynical, dare-I-say "Christian" forgiveness. I read a review lately for David Whitney; in this year's show he addresses his head butting an audience member some Fringes ago. The reviewer begins by saying they intend to make fair judgment of his efforts, despite the original offence being "unforgivable".

I Found Someone Who Could Forgive the Unforgivable

Carrie Lloyd | Posted 05.09.2012 | UK Lifestyle
Carrie Lloyd

I don't believe that I've ever been in the presence of a man who intimidated me. I'm not intimidated by aggressive men, powerful men, strong men, hilarious men, good-looking men. They're a piece of cake, I can work them out in seconds.

Making Sense of Evil

Marina Cantacuzino | Posted 09.07.2012 | Home
Marina Cantacuzino

This week sees the publication of an outstanding and beautifully crafted redemptive memoir by Marian Partington, whose sister was murdered by two of Britain's most notorious serial killers - Frederick and Rosemary West.

Keeping on Track With Those "New Year" Resolutions - 6 Ways to Build a Healthy Resolve

Tony Lobl | Posted 03.03.2012 | UK Lifestyle
Tony Lobl

Whether it is something in our characters or something about our health that needs improving, we don't have to pay homage to the status quo. We are equipped with the resolve we need to ring in the changes.

Is it Time to Make Time for Spiritual Care?

Tony Lobl | Posted 18.02.2012 | UK Lifestyle
Tony Lobl

What do prayer, unconditional love, forgiveness, life's meaning and purpose, and spiritual practice have in common? They are five Spiritual Concepts ...