But 'Strictly' finished more than two months ago, which in tabloid terms, is a life-time. Which means that the press release we sent out for our comedy web-series 'Sally the Life Coach' was largely ignored. This therefore means, when it comes to doing press for our show, I need to, uh, do it all myself. So here goes...
In this age of Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc. we are increasingly living our lives through the eyes (and comments) of other people. Have you ever stopped to think about how and what this means to you on a personal, emotional level? If someone 'Likes' your post does that give you a boost? Is your sense of self dependent on how many virtual 'friends' or re-tweets you have?
I have been on both sides of that argument, and I know exactly what I am talking about. I have been there, I have resisted being coached. I have been coaching for many years and successfully changed the lives of lots of people, both male and female, young and old. But, and this is a big BUT, I resisted being coached myself because my ego kept telling me that I was okay, I was 'fine'.
I have learned a tremendous amount since training to be a coach and being a coach. I have learned a lot about me in the process. I learned so much about myself that I didn't know, or if I did know I was not aware of it. A lot had been stuffed down inside somewhere, and I have managed to excavate and find it.
You never step back and take a look inside yourself and ponder your shortcomings, instead you minimise, alter or deny them. You are not vigorously honest with yourself. You never pause and observe your behaviour without judgement. You are too busy taking everyone else's inventory, yet not willing to take your own.
As a coach what I have come to realise is just how little self worth people actually have for themselves. Most people don't even like themselves, let alone love themselves. Maybe it's their shyness, their figure, their behaviour, their looks, their neediness or inability to say no. I think it's fair to say most of us have something we dislike about ourselves.
The career advice that they are given at these events from strong successful women often centres around learning what gets the attention of male bosses, competing in a mans world and being more confident. This is all sound advice and may even help you to be viewed as one of the boys, but is that what we really want?