At the beginning of the Bible, God says, 'It is not good for man to be alone.' We see here the heart of God, which is for us to be in relationship: relationship with each other and ultimately with him. We were made to be sociable, to interact, to interrelate. We were made to look outwards in love towards one another.
What a good prenup should mean is that, where a divorce is the only real option, the whole process is handled more quickly, with less fighting, mess and acrimony. If the terms are pre-agreed and legally binding, both parties should have a clearer idea of where they stand and as a result, there should be less to quarrel over.
"Living together is no guarantee of commitment. A study by Pollard and Harris found that 41% of cohabiting men were not 'completely committed' to their live-in girlfriends." Forty one percent?! What the study fails to mention, is that these arses would probably be no more committed to you if you married them and handcuffed them to the sofa.
Sad news this week of two City bankers who committed suicide, both in the prime of their lives. We have all visited that dark place where we have contemplated whether life continues to be worth living. Just this week, a friend send me a plaintive message that read something like this: 'life, job, love, all suck'.
It was love. Beautiful but weighted with the knowledge that it wouldn't last forever. It generated desperate need but was fragile and could be choked off by need itself. It was insecure making and led to jealousy because without him, it felt like I would die. It's what Hollywood preached and what Auden captured in heartrending simplicity.
I have a confession, I work with my husband and I like it. There, I said it. For most people, the thought of working with their other half sends them running for the hills. Even some of our closest friends are surprised that we manage to spend so much time together without ever tearing our hair out, but we don't. Or at least I don't.
I wonder sometimes what it would be like living with the Dalai Lama - because, even though he's probably about the most saintly guy on earth, I'll bet he's got some really irritating habits. You know the sort of thing - hogging the TV remote control; stinking out the lavatory and not opening the window; constantly losing his keys.
The Marriage Foundation, founded by the High Court Judge Sir Paul Coleridge, has claimed that cohabitation, i.e living together without marrying, is the key driver of family breakdown. The report urged the Government to reverse the trend away from marriage, by "distinguishing, encouraging, promoting and incentivising marriage."
While researching for my book, The Flirt Interpreter, I interviewed 100 men in four different international, Western cities. I asked them if they would like it if a woman approached them and asked them out. The answer was a resounding 'yes!' on both counts. Followed by 'as long as it's not done too aggressively'.