We all have an idea in our mind of what we want out of our relationship, and how we would like it to be. While we need to be conscious of seeking perfection from ourselves, from our partner (or potential partner) or from our relationship, we also need to be careful that we don't compromise ourselves for the sake of a relationship.
Experience shows that frequent change of partners without deeper commitment and a meaningful responsibility towards each other is one of the main reasons for an increasing number of 'problem children' in many developed countries. They cost us educationally, socially and economically. This is a big worry for social scientists, educationalists and many parents.
Why would you want someone who is distant? Someone who shows no interest in you as a person? Who doesn't support and encourage your dreams and passions? Someone unavailable? Why even go there? It can only end in heartbreak. A lot of men are unavailable. They may be emotionally immature, just in it for a good time, or worse yet - married.
But beyond the polarity of 'proud to be single' vs 'smug married' is more human uncertainty than any other sphere of life. People are unreliable and relationships a gamble, bodies don't work as required when babies are meticulously planned. Being single may be gloriously liberating one day, bleakly lonely the next. This is life.
At the beginning of the Bible, God says, 'It is not good for man to be alone.' We see here the heart of God, which is for us to be in relationship: relationship with each other and ultimately with him. We were made to be sociable, to interact, to interrelate. We were made to look outwards in love towards one another.
What a good prenup should mean is that, where a divorce is the only real option, the whole process is handled more quickly, with less fighting, mess and acrimony. If the terms are pre-agreed and legally binding, both parties should have a clearer idea of where they stand and as a result, there should be less to quarrel over.