Everyone sits down and says the relationship is in trouble and then tells me the many ways in which the other person is lacking. The conversations are always about what's missing between them or how thing have changed, and a litany of the other person's shortcomings, long before they might mention their own contributions.
Congratulations, you're getting married! There is no other day in your life that compares with your wedding day. Sure, there are other big events in life that you'll always remember such as graduations, the birth of a child, or holidays of a lifetime, but it's your wedding day that you've probably fantasised about from a young age.
In a situation where a person finds themselves 'dumped' the chances are they are unlikely to be of sane enough mind to walk down the street without collapsing in a crumpled heap, much less, select a suitable aromatherapy treatment. They will feel rage, they will feel fury, they will feel a burning resentment and bitterness for every man walking the planet.
Let's face it, most of us wouldn't dream of taking on any other worthwhile new experience, such as driving or rock climbing, for instance, without some proper training. So why do we get married without preparation? Me included. Thirteen years ago, when I married in my late thirties, I didn't give marriage preparation a second thought.
The Office of National Statistics has revealed that the number of stepfamilies in the UK dropped from 631,000 in 2001 to 544,000 in 2011, a slump of 14% in just a decade. The drop has been interpreted as a reflection of the difficulties of assimilating children from different families into a new relationship, so if you are planning on doing a Brady Bunch, here's ten things you need to know...
But I can't help but feel that the format of 'Married At First Sight' tarnishes that. Just as you may buy an item of clothing to try on at home, decide you don't like it and return it to the shop with your receipt, Channel 4's new show seems to imply marriage is something that can be taken lightly as you can get out of it at the first sign of stormy waters.
Married for three months now, my husband and I are already learning important lessons about our marriage that will help form the basis of how our love for each other develops and grows over the years to come. Reflecting on lessons learned so far, here are five things that have struck me as particularly significant since saying 'I Do'.
Mediation involves couples holding discussions, led by a trained mediator, to reach agreements out of court, which can then be made legally binding and enforceable by a court order. It's long been a favourable option for couples who are willing, and able, to reach an agreement without discussions becoming clouded by emotion.
As an educated woman, I was fervent on being a success, earning my own money, whilst maintaining a good level of health, fitness, an active social life and when the time was right - we'd decide when to start a family, where we would both play an equal role as co-parents. I realise now that this was an unrealistic expectation.
Our society is built around expectations. Expectations as to how we look, how we behave, the type of job we should have, the type of person we should marry, the trajectory our life should take. Often these aren't even conscience thoughts about a person, just things we naturally assume to be the case. But why?