Our efforts must span right across society. With businesses and a one nation government working together to finally solve this, building on the momentum that's already being established, we can achieve equality.
The media is saturated with ripped, hunky men. And this is a bloody shame, because in reality, the life where us mere mortals exist, there are many male body types. All of which are individual and beautiful. And I think that's something we all sometimes forget.
Assumptions that men are "hard to reach" or that "men don't talk" are unhelpful and present challenges to services that seek to engage with men and encourage their involvement. There is more to do to develop our understandings in terms of research, policy and practice, and recognition of men's roles in families and as carers might be a key signifier for broader change.
There is a framework showing how men cope with mental health concerns (particularly depression) in ways that escalate - the 'big build'. It is suggested that men initially begin with 'acting in' behaviours, such as 'avoidance' (e.g. overwork), 'numbing it' (through drug or alcohol use) and 'escaping it' (through increased risk-taking behaviours like gambling or having extra-marital affairs).
Being a Dad has always been a big part of my life. I first became a father in my early twenties, well before I was married and my other children came along. This came with all the difficulties you would expect, but it was also the making of me... The House of Commons needs lots of different types of people, but I certainly think people with young families are part of that. We also need men who are prepared to talk about why being a father is a big part of their life, and who are not willing to see core issues like childcare, early years education, and the gender pay gap being side-lined as 'women's issues'. I believe Parliament should be a leader in being a family-friendly workplace.
We need a cultural shift so that men can discuss their mental health, seek help, overcome the stereotypes of masculinity placed upon their shoulders, and get the support they need. Each suicide is a terrible tragedy and a waste of a precious life. Together, we can prevent suicide and save the lives of vulnerable young men.
What I find frightening is the rejection of feminism by men who call themselves experts or advocates of men and our health. The idea of power and control and the sense of entitlement to it is harming us all. Patriarchy reinforces that.
Having some space, literally through living away, but also the space afforded by sobriety as relapses got further and further apart, I was able to understand the situation a little more, and to feel more accepting of it.
The radical dimension of feminism will not lie down and take the misappropriations and individualistic compromises that mainstream, male-dominated systems have subjected that movement - now referred to more glibly as "feminism" - to.
Male feminism isn't simply an act of solidarity with women. It certainly isn't an act of altruism. It isn't selfless. In fact, male feminism invokes a degree of selfishness. Men are becoming increasingly aware that, while the masculine gender construct remains profoundly deleterious to women, it is also detrimental to men.
What started as a progressive movement where men, and women, could be their beautiful, imperfect selves, attracted these same people. Because the freedom to be yourself is all well and good unless you're a pr*ck. If you're a pr*ck, be someone else.
My brother and I saw Dad a few weeks prior to his death. We watched Star Trek: Into Darkness and he was fine; he looked good and appeared happy. I always thought of comedy as a way to help the healing process and to make awful things seem less awful, so I sometimes joke about how the movie was so bad it drove my father to suicide.
If a man has experienced abuse from another male he may fear people will consider him homosexual, and that he will experience discrimination attached to this assumption. If a male is abused by a female, people often don't recognise this as a traumatic event, and even suggest that the boy or man is 'lucky' for his experience.
The only things us men can't do is gestate, give birth, and breast feed the child, none of which is really our fault. Our 50% of responsibility can be made up of other things, and we are more than capable parents whose contribution is hugely important to family life.
So many of us go about our lives hiding behind masks of decaying stereotypes and redundant expectations. We pretend to be something we're not and live a lie due to the fear of being judged for being different.
Modern entertainment inundates us with choice of male identities. Most interestingly in comedy, we often root for the lovable loser, who inexplicably beats all the odds to win the affections of a woman through some shared experience or misadventure.