The Problem With Perfectionism

Bev James | Posted 26.09.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Bev James

From Madonna to Mozart, perfectionism has been the driving force behind many of history's greatest achievers. However, perfectionism isn't just a penchant for perfection - we all want things to go as well as possible in our lives. No, true perfectionism is a very real and constant need to reach the highest standards, even if the cost is detrimental.

The Perfection Paradox: Why It's Taking So Long To Launch Fat Girl

Clementine Prendergast | Posted 20.06.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Clementine Prendergast

The Fat Girl initiative encourages us to accept perceived flaws, recognising bodily perfectionism as an illusionary and ultimately redundant concept. I believe these imperfections are metaphoric of our wider worldly struggles, using the word "fat" as an expression of emotional mess.

Childbirth... It Can't Be That Hard - Right?

Tina McGuff | Posted 22.03.2017 | UK Parents
Tina McGuff

Interestingly enough every time I spoke to the midwife about this she always smiled sweetly and said: "please keep an open mind Tina" - I scoffed knowing full well I did not need an 'open mind' as it was all going to go just beautifully thank you very much!

How Do You Tell Your Children You Have A Mental Illness

Tina McGuff | Posted 21.03.2017 | UK Parents
Tina McGuff

It took many years to become 'normal', whatever that is. Once I had finished therapy, inpatient and outpatient treatments, ending all mediations, I felt I was finally mentally fit and ready to take on the world.

Procrastination And How To Beat It

Dr Jessamy Hibberd | Posted 30.01.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Dr Jessamy Hibberd

Ring any bells? Procrastination is pretty familiar to most of us. We're all guilty of putting off chores or unpleasant tasks from time to time and it's understandable to put off the things that aren't so much fun. But procrastination doesn't just affect the things that don't matter.

Five Tips For Surviving A Chronic Illness Christmas

Louise Marie Smith | Posted 20.12.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Louise Marie Smith

I'm a hardcore Spoonie. In the Chronic Illness Community, a Spoonie is someone with a long term illness who has to really watch their energy expendit...

Greatest Gifts

Caragh Little | Posted 09.12.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Caragh Little

Maybe I need to forget about the artificial construct and endless to-do lists of 'the festive season' - constructed piece by piece to generate the best income of the year - and focus on the glimmers of light Christmas brings to dark months and bleak times.

Great Expectations Of Being A New Parent

Helen Miller | Posted 05.12.2016 | UK Parents
Helen Miller

For most of us, we change as people when we become parents. On the whole we grow and become better people. However in the transition period, that change in who we are, our identity, can cause great confusion. Once a confident and independent adult, you begin to question your abilities. Failing it appears, is not an option.

Why I'm Hoping Ed Balls Syndrome Is Contagious

Dr Jessamy Hibberd | Posted 22.11.2016 | UK Entertainment
Dr Jessamy Hibberd

Enter Ed Balls... A real life example that shows that practice does not make perfect - and that it really doesn't matter. Someone like us (obviously not in run the country sense, but in a normal person doing strictly way) giving it his all, despite not being brilliant.

In Pursuit Of The 'Perfect' Christmas

Lucy Nichol | Posted 17.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Lucy Nichol

Every single year I try desperately to conjure up the epitome of Christmas. But it's 2016. Santa doesn't exist and the old fashioned paper chains and snow globes I keep stockpiling don't actually have the power to transport me back to a Victorian knees-up with the Fezziwigs.

Perfect Parenting Isn't Good Enough

Sarah Ramsden | Posted 11.09.2017 | UK Parents
Sarah Ramsden

What encompasses a good enough mother seems to be someone who tries again despite failure - just like all those inspirational memes that flood your Facebook feed every day. So, it sounds like Winnicott has basically described each and every parent that I know

Why Being a Perfectionist Is Bad for Your Health

Melissa Noakes | Posted 19.04.2017 | UK Lifestyle
Melissa Noakes

The pressure to be perfect and 'always on' is overwhelming. Whether the aim is to be the perfect boss, employee, partner, sibling or have the perfect life, home, children, body - there is a never ending stream of "perfectionism" with which our generation is struggling to keep up with.

A Book to Read, Share and Keep: Letting Go by Emma Woolf

Louisa Mallejacq Flynn | Posted 18.01.2017 | UK Entertainment
Louisa Mallejacq Flynn

Each and every one of us could likely do with letting go of something. Whether it's a past hurt, a toxic habit or a reoccurring vision for the future ...

Fatal Perfectionism or From Fear to Love

Anna Roth | Posted 29.11.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Anna Roth

Are you familiar with that feeling? You start a new project, you would like to move to a different place, make an important phone call - and then suddenly it happens: the fear paralyzes you. You don´t reach out to the receiver, you stay there to live where you are - in other words - you give up?

Rebuilding Myself After a Quest to Become the 'Perfect Jew' Left Me in Ruins

Lizzie Green | Posted 25.09.2016 | UK Lifestyle
Lizzie Green

I see how amazing and rewarding life can be, and although I have grown as a person from my experiences, I am upset at the amount of time my illness has made me waste. During these months of the year, when there are festivals after festival, surrounded by many a mealtime, I am trying my best to enjoy and acknowledge the beauty and root of these joyous times.

Learning From Your Mistakes - It Takes Practice

Isabelle Lee | Posted 01.09.2016 | UK Parents
Isabelle Lee

I'm not a perfectionist about everything - one look at the state my house is in most of the time can tell you that. But I can be hard on myself when I make mistakes. I have even been known to avoid a situation rather than risk making mistakes or making a wrong choice.

Perfectionism - Strive for Something Better!

Vicky Bullen | Posted 13.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Vicky Bullen

It's hard to be perfect when you are doing something new - inevitably we will make mistakes. And so our fixation with always being faultless can stop us trying new things, stop us experimenting and taking risks.

The Decision for Precision

Malcolm Levene | Posted 12.04.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Malcolm Levene

My OCD is about being Over Consciously Detailed. In effect, what that means is, nothing is ever quite good enough. Well, that's not true. It means I'm too fussy for my own good. No, let me rephrase that, I'm very particular about my writing and my work.

Mums As Leaders

Catherine Davies | Posted 31.03.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Catherine Davies

All women want to be a great mum. Maybe a perfect mum? I did. I think my mum friends did. I definitely wanted to do things The Right Way and not The Wrong Way. Who would argue with that?

Radical Self-Care Changed My Life

Nikki Armytage | Posted 06.02.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Nikki Armytage

It was a radical act to put a stop to my busy and (on the surface) 'successful' London life as I knew it, by moving away for a year with nothing but an image of a bed and yoga mat for company. It was an act of inspiration - and desperation.

Sloppiness Is a Gender Issue

Tony Crabbe | Posted 27.01.2015 | UK Lifestyle
Tony Crabbe

I work with a leader who is sloppy: a bit disorganised, he forgets things and at times drops the ball. He is also extremely successful and admired. The thing is, his sloppiness is interpreted (accurately) as big thinking and creativity. It occurs to me that I don't know any women in senior positions who are also sloppy and successful; that bothers me.

How to Stop Your Perfectionistic Tendencies From Destroying Your Life

Danny Baker | Posted 02.12.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Danny Baker

There's a lot to be said for being a perfectionist, as it pushes one to strive for excellence and to reach their true potential. I always loved this characteristic in myself, and I attribute whatever success I've had to it. But for a long time, I didn't realise it was a double-edged sword. Then when I was 19, my perfectionism plunged me into a near-fatal depression.

How to Spot If You Are a Perfectionist

Jayne Morris | Posted 13.08.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Jayne Morris

When high expectations are held of us from an early age we can start to nurture an internal drive to meet the standards set for us and feel chronically unhappy or dissatisfied if we don't achieve the level of success we set out to accomplish. This develops into perfectionism in adulthood and results in the relentless quest for excellence.

How to Beat Perfectionism... and be the Best!

Andrew Cunningham | Posted 06.08.2014 | UK Lifestyle
Andrew Cunningham

For some perfectionism is an internal wasteland where all positives are ignored and life is like wading through treacle. For others perfectionism makes the outside world never enough and disappointment poisons most activities and relationships. Perfectionists walk a tightrope where impending disaster is held at bay with extreme effort.

Are Your Perfectionist Ways Holding You Back?

The Huffington Post UK | Sarah O'Meara | Posted 30.05.2014 | UK Lifestyle

Sometimes we need to be called out on really obvious behaviours that are getting us nowhere. And, surprisingly, perfectionism is one of them. When ...