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Future Sex: Beyond Gay and Straight

Posted: 10/01/2012 00:00

In most parts of the world, homophobia is in decline. The global trend is for the repeal of anti-gay laws and for greater public understanding and acceptance of sexual difference. Overall, lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people are gradually gaining respect and rights - not losing them.

There are, of course, frightening examples of intensified homophobic repression in parts of Africa and the Middle East. But taking the long view, in world historical terms, anti-gay attitudes and laws are on the wane.

This begs the question:

As homophobia diminishes and as future societies eventually embrace a post-homophobic culture, how will this transition to equality, dignity, understanding and acceptance affect the expression of sexuality?

If human civilisation evolves into a state of sexual enlightenment, where the differences between hetero and homo no longer matter, what would this mean for the future of same-sex desire and same-sex identity?

We already know, thanks to a host of sex surveys, that bisexuality is an fact of life and that even in narrow-minded, homophobic cultures, many people have a sexuality that is, to varying degrees, capable of both heterosexual and homosexual attraction.

It is also apparent that same-sex relations flourish, albeit often temporarily, in single-sex institutions like schools, prisons and the armed forces - which suggests that sexuality might be more flexible than many people assume.

Research by Dr Alfred Kinsey in the USA during the 1940s was the first major statistical evidence that gay and straight are not watertight, irreconcilable and mutually exclusive sexual orientations. He found that human sexuality is, in fact, a continuum of desires and behaviours, ranging from exclusive heterosexuality to exclusive homosexuality. A substantial proportion of the population shares an amalgam of same-sex and opposite-sex feelings - even if they do not act on them.

In Sexual Behaviour In The Human Male (1948), Kinsey recorded that 13% of the men he surveyed were either mostly or exclusively homosexual for at least three years between the ages of 16 and 55. Twenty-five per cent had more than incidental gay reactions or experience, amounting to clear and continuing same-sex desires. Altogether, 37% of the men Kinsey questioned had experienced sex with other males to the point of orgasm, and half had experienced mental attraction or erotic arousal towards other men (often transient and not physically expressed).

Kinsey's statistics on same-sex behaviour have since been criticised as out-of-date, exaggerated and unrepresentative. However, his idea of a spectrum of human sexuality has tended to be reinforced by subsequent surveys which have shown that a significant proportion of the population have had sexual relations with both men and women.

A British sex survey, conducted by ICM for The Observer newspaper in 2008, found that 16% of women reported sexual contact with a woman, and 10% of men said they'd had sexual contact with another man. The survey revealed a trend to greater sexual experimentation, with 23% of 16 to 24-year-olds indicating that they had a same-sex experience. All these figures are much higher than the number of people who are exclusively gay or lesbian and who define themselves as such.

The possibility that individuals can share a capacity for both hetero and homo behaviour is an idea that was researched and documented by the anthropologists Clellan Ford and Frank Beach.

In Patterns of Sexual Behaviour (1965), they noted that certain forms of homosexuality were considered normal and acceptable in 49 (nearly two-thirds) of 76 tribal societies surveyed from the 1920s to the 1950s. They also recorded that in some aboriginal cultures, such as the Keraki and Sambia peoples of Papua New Guinea, all young men entered into a same-sex relationship with an unmarried male warrior, sometimes lasting several years, as part of their rites of passage to manhood. Once completed, they ceased all homosexual contact and assumed sexual desires for women. If sexual orientation was totally biologically pre-programmed at birth, these men would have never been able to switch to homosexuality and then to heterosexuality with such apparent ease.

This led Ford and Beach to deduce that homosexuality is fundamental to the human species, and that its practice is substantially influenced by social mores and cultural expectations.

The evidence from these two research disciplines - sociology and anthropology - is that the incidence and form of heterosexuality and homosexuality is not fixed and universal, and that the two sexual orientations are not mutually exclusive. There is a good deal of fluidity and overlap.

What's more, although scientific evidence shows that human sexuality is significantly affected by biological predispositions - such as genes and hormones - other influences appear to be cultural, including social expectations, peer pressure and the availability and opportunity for sexual release. These influences channel erotic impulses in certain directions and not others. An individual's sexual orientation is thus influenced culturally, as well as biologically.

As culture changes, perhaps manifestations of sexuality can also change?

The evidence of considerable cross-over between gay and straight relations comes from research that records consciously recognised and admitted desires. At the level of unconscious feelings - where passions are often repressed, displaced, sublimated, projected and transferred - it seems probable that very few people are 100 percent straight or gay. Most are a mixture, even if they never mentally acknowledge or physically express both sides of the sexual equation.

This picture of human sexuality is much more complex, diverse and blurred than the traditional simplistic binary image of hetero and homo, so loved by straight moralists and - equally significantly - by many lesbians and gay men.

If sexual orientation has a culturally-influenced element of indeterminacy and flexibility, then the present forms of homosexuality and heterosexuality are conditional. They are unlikely to remain the same in perpetuity. As culture changes, so will expressions of sexuality.

In a future non-homophobic society, as the taboos concerning same-sex relations recede, more people are likely to have gay sex - even if only experimentally or for a few years.

Interestingly, the demise of homophobia is likely to make redundant the need to assert and affirm gayness.

Gay and lesbian identities are largely the product of homophobic prejudice and repression. They are a self-defence mechanism against homophobia. Faced with persecution for having same-sex relations, the right to have those relationships has to be defended - hence gay identity and the gay rights movement.

But if one sexuality is not privileged over another, defining oneself as gay (or straight) will cease to be necessary and have no social relevance or significance. The need to maintain sexual differences, boundaries and identities disappears with the demise of straight supremacism.

As we evolve into a sexually enlightened and accepting society, homosexuality and heterosexuality will begin to fade as separate, exclusive orientations and identities.

The vast majority of people will be open to the possibility of both opposite-sex and same-sex desires, regardless of whether they act upon them. They won't feel the need to label themselves (or others) as gay or straight because, in a future non-homophobic civilisation, no one will care who loves who. Love will transcend sexual orientation.

* For more information about Peter Tatchell's human rights and social justice campaigns: www.petertatchell.net

 
In most parts of the world, homophobia is in decline. The global trend is for the repeal of anti-gay laws and for greater public understanding and acceptance of sexual difference. Overall, lesbian, ga...
In most parts of the world, homophobia is in decline. The global trend is for the repeal of anti-gay laws and for greater public understanding and acceptance of sexual difference. Overall, lesbian, ga...
 
 
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Rene Luke
Godless heathen and loving it.
07:01 on 20/01/2012
This is a wonderful and insightful article that reflects many of my own beliefs about human sexuality. I do believe that it is partly influenced by evolution, the physiology of the brain and our own desires. Humans are inherently bisexual animals, like most mammals, but because we have harnessed the ability to enjoy sex beyond instinct, we have tapped into the ability to decide for ourselves which way we want to go or not choose at all. Sadly, because it is so pleasurable, many cultures (especially Judeo-Christian and Muslim) shun even heterosexual sex as "sin" and try to control it. I don't get this. It's natural and it's fun. Why make it into something evil? Without it, we wouldn't be here.
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rewith85man
Expressing Who I Am
20:50 on 14/01/2012
How can sex change? It is natural. It is between/among people in love or in lust. I just don't see the point. #FutureSex
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Rene Luke
Godless heathen and loving it.
07:34 on 20/01/2012
Heh heh heh... Ask Bachman's husband. You know that some cultures believe that if you pray hard enough, get electrocuted, preached at, scolded, baptized, beaten, tortured, exorcized, or killed, those nasty little desires will just melt away. MY take is that sexual preference does NOT change but these methods (or the promise of more torture) may make you shove it into the far reaches of your brain, leaving you always yearning and never fulfilled. I do believe that the most vocal opponents to homosexuality are those who live that sad life and the only way to be happy is to make others suffer.
17:30 on 12/01/2012
As a "gay" man, I am sometimes sexually attracted to someone of the opposite sex. It doesn't happen very often but the attraction is there. I've never acted on it and don't intend to but Peter's article has confirmed something to me I've long suspected about human sexuality. Liberals say about 10% of the population is homosexual. Conservatives say its closer 1%. I think the real figure is around 5% but this excludes at least a third of the human population who are not strictly homosexual or heterosexual but claim heterosexuality out of social convention.
00:47 on 14/01/2012
I agree with this, although in my experience of more than 20 years as a gay leaning bisexual I think more people are in the middle than you do (although you did say 'at least') Actually all of the combinations gaybi bi gay only on weekends etc are 'minority' sexualities when looked at separately. But mostly share the trait of not being exclusively one or another. Exclusive homosexuality is an extreme, as is exclusive heterosexuality. Nevertheless one cult really has become the all pervasive dominant force in our culture for the longest time now. And it's thanks to notions of family, conformity and religion in particular not due to the underlying realities of human nature.
These powerful forces cause such terrible distortions in weak minded people's personalities as a result.
See above.
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Fonsini
Let there be pie.
17:19 on 12/01/2012
I thought everyone was already gay. Next year we will all have to be short and gay when the dwarfism lobby gains momentum.
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Nathan0316
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13:41 on 12/01/2012
For as long as there have been people, they have been finding ways to find differences between people. Unfortunately that will continue for as long as there will be people, and no matter how much we may try to close the gaps with articles, laws or opinions. John Terry is being investigated for racism as we speak, the Lawrence case only closed last week and 6 Muslims were arrested recently for inciting racial hatred. And that's on an issue that's been frowned in this country (on the whole) for 50 years! Do you really think that notions of gay and straight will simply disappear? There will be people on both sides who will never surrender their right to hate those on the "other" side, and that will always be true no matter what issue we're discussing. It's a nice thought that it might all just go away, but more than a little naive.
12:48 on 12/01/2012
Peter Tatchell is a true Hero. A guardian of the Liberty Tree. Fearless for the truth..if there were more like him the world would be a better place. Remember when he tried to arrest Mugabe that dirty old murderer from Zimbabwe? Great stuff!!
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majesticjkr
Always look on the bright side of life
09:33 on 12/01/2012
There is only about 5% gayness in the world so its still only a very small number, the only gay people I talk to or those that reply to any comments I;ve made on gay voice, it's not as big as people think.
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beth24
23:06 on 11/01/2012
hetero missionary is sooo satisfying!
01:36 on 12/01/2012
only if both participants have good bodies and can see what is actually transpiring......meaning, no fat rolls or swollen midsections...gag
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beth24
23:05 on 11/01/2012
yes, but for a woman, what could be more satisfying than being penetrated by a man that she has great love/desire for, with a real penis? not a sex toy or vibrator...if/when a women experiences this as nature intended, it is excruciatingly satisfying and pleasurable, as nature intended.
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Vampy1
19:45 on 11/01/2012
i'm andrioidsexual...
19:03 on 11/01/2012
Gay's only make up 1% of the UK population, therefore I would suggest that the Gay lobby holds way to much sway politically.
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Thomas Platt
19:30 on 11/01/2012
So because there's less of us, we're somehow less qualified for equal rights?
22:09 on 11/01/2012
What do you mean by equal rights?
00:25 on 14/01/2012
Humans baseline sexuality is bisexual like chimps who clearly are (omnisexual in fact) but then Chimps aren't into religion.
10:26 on 15/01/2012
Humans are not in to one dominant male or female whatever, they are freethinking, and can decide as individuals to use their sex organs as they PERSONALLY wish to.

Just because science determines that the great apes share some 95% of our DNA formulation does NOT mean we have a social fabric operating along similar 'tribalistic' lines as the apes operate under in their natural environment.

In general, cultural differences apart, most humans tend to prefer male on female relationships, be they monogamous or pluralist, the addition of 'civilising' religion tends to confirm, in again, most human societies, again, apart from minuscule, and to our minds, oddity communities, that for historical imperatives, homosexuality is frowned upon if not banned outright.

There may be medical, social and civil stability, fear of vendetta, inheritance and family honour reasons, but it is noticeable that it is only in so called liberal communities such as become the norm for the West, or which operates in Western style, that the current pressures from the minute,but inappropriately named, 'gay' community seem to be prevalent.
The future of 'sex' will be as always, male/ female, and for the dual purpose of procreation and pleasure.

And as always, n o matter where on earth on e may be, as tiny section of society, in all cultures, where some decide that male/male or female/female is preferable to the NORM.
23:42 on 16/01/2012
Utter nonsense! Animals live by instinct;their instinct is to reproduce.They have anal sex possibly to dominate,humans do the same in prison.No one can know why animals act as they do but the study of humanity is not zoology but ethics.
18:34 on 11/01/2012
"If differences between homo and hetero no longer matter..."

Specious reasoning. Subtle differences don't mean the differences don't matter. Fluidity between differences don't mean the differences don't matter. Knowledge of steps between differences don't mean each step doesn't matter.
16:56 on 11/01/2012
I think "love" and "sex" are two different things which are often lumped together casually. Plenty of straight people feel genuine strong intimate love for friends of the same sex...but have zero desire to have sex with them, etc.. I think this is an often-glossed-over and liberating concept, and such things are often carelessly labeled as something else.

For example - two tough masculine football players who love sex with women and are very close, intimate, non-sexual friends - sometimes even to the point of "soul-mates" - aren't necessarily "repressed" sexually with each other, even though they may be inseparable, socially (an example I've personally seen more than once in the USA).

Love is separate from sex, though it often coincides.
00:26 on 14/01/2012
True but sex separate from sex is more common with men.
00:48 on 14/01/2012
Er I meant separate from love.
15:08 on 11/01/2012
A lesbian friend of mine, in explaining love among same-sex people to me (as an official heterosexual), used the word 'yearning'. To be physically attracted to anyone may be a matter of admiration, obsession, warmth or simply aesthetics. Getting to know someone more deeply, is fraught with risk, but this yearning endures.

What she was describing was a depth of feeling that in the end, was not to do with the purely physical. She spoke of yearning for the company of someone, a simple feeling of necessity to be with them. Anyone, at any time, may feel this for another, regardless of gender. It comes from knowing one's own self and realising a personal capability of expressing love. Caring, taking the time to familiarise and learning to accept the natural differences between.

With simple provisos that protect the too-young from the risks of close, physical intimacy, surely it becomes a private and joyous matter, between consenting adults, to express their love in any way they wish. Gender need never be an issue, especially as same-sex couples can so easily have children nowadays. It will surely make flirting much more fun!
08:33 on 12/01/2012
Beautifully said and completely true. For me, it's not always about sexual desire, but yearning for the company and affection of someone who I admire and feel a bond with. Please thank your lesbian friend for her great insight as well!
10:37 on 15/01/2012
That is simply obsession.
A habit, formed out of a misunderstanding of a persons ability to form a substantially proper and correct relationship with another person.

There are offshoots, nymphomania, sex addiction, in fact any sort of behaviour that downgrades a healthy and fulfilling style of matching one's needs to one's mentally healthy predilections.

Unfortunately, our legal systems allows such individual activity, under the guise of 'tolerance'.
However, when our level of acceptance extends beyond a certain flip over point, that will be the time when a radical overhaul of our system will come into play.

It will be then that the term, 'the majority rules' will come in to play..... with a vengeance.
12:04 on 15/01/2012
I'm unsure whether you are directly commenting on my post, scouse55, as your comments appear to support what I say. The 'yearning' I describe is most certainly not obsession, I explain that in my second para. No, it is the simple, rather elusive and delicate sense that 'this is right'. It has kept writers and artists supplied with aesthetic languages for centuries. It has been at the heart of what we now call 'romance' for as long. Many thanks to SoCalWriter for the lovely response, the dear friend is no longer in my life, but her wisdom has stayed with me. Let's be kinder towards each other eh?
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vonric
13:20 on 11/01/2012
Thought provoking article and one that correlates with perceptions I've garnered from the book "Biologic Exuberance' which explores the wonderfully free and eclectic sexual practices of many, many mammals. The author;'s point in that book is to speak to the enormous middle ground between "purely hetero' and "purely homo". few species, in fact, have "pure" practitioners. It is the human, as a mammal, who has invested moral interpretations on a variety of behaviors, and thus laid the groundwork for the complexities we now face... that rigid, narrow, moral code demands, as one or two posters notes, an adherence to hetero missionary sexual behavior as the only socially approved context.

the polarization we now have speaks to the essential need to equitize rights, to establish parity...legally, within our tax code, within career paths.. and to begin to discard wounding steriotypes that can dominate the thinking at both ends of the continuum. I hope, some day, we can move beyond.. probably not in my lifetime.....

as someone who is predominantly white, but part black and part American native, I identify as "none of the above' and join, actually, many many others who really are "mutts". I am rather inclined to deduce that gender orientation has, for many of us, the same shades of blend.....
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Thismortalcoil
Science is the poetry of reality
17:56 on 12/01/2012
Thought provoking post, f&f!