Parents Bringing Up Children As 'Little Buddhas', Claims ATL

The Huffington Post UK  |  By Posted: 5/04/2012 10:18 Updated: 5/04/2012 12:07

Children Little Buddhas
Children are turning into "little buddhas" claims a union leader

Middle class children are turning into "little Buddhas" as parents indulge their offspring and wait on them hand and foot, a teachers' union leader warned.

Parents need to learn how to say no to their children as spoilt pupils had "disproportionate" consequences at school, it was claimed.

The comments were made by Dr Mary Bousted at the annual conference of the Association of Teachers and Lecturers (ATL).

The union's general secretary added she blamed poor parenting.

"Children without boundaries at home resent boundaries imposed at school. How many parents ask their children regularly to contribute to the running of the house?

"Far too many children are waited on at home hand and foot. We are not doing them any favours if we make them into little Buddhas at home.

"And it certainly doesn't do them any favours in school."

Have you brought your baby up like a buddha?

The warning follows a proposal made by one ATL member suggesting schools need behaviour sanctions to rival corporal punishment, as current methods such as detention and exclusion fail to deal with the issue.

Other potential solutions include military-style cadet forces being introduced to all secondary schools, a move which education secretary Michael Gove claimed would boost standards and discipline.

In October last year the Centre for Policy Studies announced a free school staffed entirely by ex-servicemen would be established in Greater Manchester, which is due to open its doors in September 2012.

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Middle class children are turning into "little Buddhas" as parents indulge their offspring and wait on them hand and foot, a teachers' union leader warned. Parents need to learn how to say no to th...
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12:32 AM on 04/07/2012
Does anyone ever notice how the "normal" image of the Buddha is wrong? I was once taught that years of fasting under a bonsai tree had left him emaciated?
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06:13 PM on 04/06/2012
Oh. I thought this would be another article about childhood obesity.
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09:50 PM on 04/08/2012
I'm sure you were thinking " Ok so what's on the menu , what are the conservatives nannies going to tell us today" .
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MissFrijole
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01:34 PM on 04/05/2012
This is a gross misinterpretation of what "Buddah" is. Buddah was a selfless man who shirked all material possessions and desires. If children really were little "Buddahs," then they would be doing the opposite, as in not being served hand and foot. They would be on the path to a higher plain of existence and not be concerned with material and physical desires. This article is rubbish.
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12:23 PM on 04/05/2012
That's Budai not Buddha.

Buddha taught self control and balance.. he's actually a historical figure..

Budai is a Japanese God. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Budai
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mokgee
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11:45 AM on 04/05/2012
How many spoilt Buddha's do you know Mary, your post is good, your reference is not. Why are people afraid to put all the blame for the disgusting behaviour of many kids in Britain, by the teachers themselves. Mid to late 80s, the teachers urged their general secretary of their union, Clive Jenkins, to stop all punishment within all schools in Britain. They got their wish, and the current mess is all down to the teachers themselves at that very time. Now that the tail is wagging the dog, their whingeing and whining has become useless, because they set the precedent for the current mess. Then came along the human rights to add further insult to injury, and the kids have got everyone where they want them..Sadly their own lives are full of confusion, because of the proper guidance, which was all taken away by people who believed they knew best, No they didn't, all respect and appreciation has gone, thanks to the reasons given here....
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01:02 PM on 04/05/2012
I remember Clive Jenkins. I heard him speak as one of the guest speakers at the end of a longish conference, all very sensible and logical. At the end we all clapped and were given the accompanying press release on the way out. What was written for the meeja had nothing to do with the speech he made and was a hard line Communist tract which the BBC quoted over pictures of me and others clapping. When I wrote to the BBC and complained do you think they apologised?
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mokgee
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03:52 PM on 04/05/2012
The rot which started from those days, has advanced to an unassailable mess, that nobody is capable of repairing. It could be done by people who know the final outcome of all of this rot, should it not be curtailed, There is only one end eventually, and sooner than we think. There was a time when the BBC, were the pride of Britain, wherever one was anywhere in the world. The rot within that establishment is too deep to repair, identical to Wetminster.....
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MissFrijole
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01:35 PM on 04/05/2012
In America, it is a felony to spank your child as a form of discipline...that explains the mess over here! (It's not really a felony, but it might as well be.)
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03:44 PM on 04/05/2012
Kids in suopermarkets here in the UK, know exactly what to do to get what they want, by making a scene, named attention seeking. Yelling, screaming or whatever, the kids will get what they want rest assured. Embarrassment is the parent's worst nightmare. In our day, we would never have dared do that, due to a fearful respect of our parents. Therefore, we were never dragged out of any situation because it never happened. Guarantee one thing, that had we of perfomed like the brats today, that is exactly what would have happened. And we all the better for it.....
11:42 AM on 04/05/2012
My boy isn't going near any military school or one that is run by ex service people. He has aspergers and the last thing he needs are idiots saying, "snap out of it". No one in the UK takes responsibility and teachers and police with no power to chastise doesn't help the country at all.
11:32 AM on 04/05/2012
Michael; Gove's militarising of schools is aimed at bolshie lower classes who are acting up. Little Buddhas are mainly middle-class spoiled brats. You have conflated two different groups.
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11:17 AM on 04/05/2012
I feel it's time schools ramped up the discipline, if only to make that point more clear to parents. As someone raised in a pretty strict environment where I was "soon served" if I didn't like what was cooked for me, and I heard "No" and "go play with the rush hour traffic" as well as benig made to do plenty of chores and do something to earn every thing I asked for they they would give me, trust me you are glad for it, and you don't resent your parents for it. My parents were both school drop outs from poor backgrounds, it doesn't take a wizz kid to figure this shit out and I credit myself as being as tough of a challange as any kid. I still sometimes wonder if I was/am autistic!