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Breaking Away From Expectations

08/04/2014 13:47 BST | Updated 07/06/2014 10:59 BST

Our society is built around expectations. Expectations as to how we look, how we behave, the type of job we should have, the type of person we should marry, the trajectory our life should take. Often these aren't even conscience thoughts about a person, just things we naturally assume to be the case. But why? Why do we think we have the right to expect something of a person, whether we know them or not? We are all individuals, with the power of free will. We can do whatever the hell we like. (Within reason, let's not go breaking any serious laws!)

I'd like to talk about the last thing on that list - the trajectory of someone's life. For young people, like myself, there can be a lot of pressure to figure out what we want to do with our lives after leaving school. The most conventional route is college or university, followed by getting a job, then later down the line, marriage and kids. In many ways, this standard of expectation is far better than in the past, when women weren't supposed to work, and marriage and kids came far earlier in life than they do now. But somehow, our modern day convention has become very restrictive, and is definitely not for everyone nowadays.

There are more and more people who want to travel the world, who want to do a job they are passionate about, even if it is difficult or unstable, who have no desire for marriage or children. And what's wrong with this? Whose right is it to tell them "no"? We often talk of stability and long-term plans, and question the wisdom of doing these things listed above. People are constantly questioning us about the future, from as young as primary school, when they ask "what do you want to be when you grow up?"Then high school is a continuous conveyor belt of subject choices, CV advice and open days. And for some people, the future is what's most important to them. But it's important to remember that this is not true for everyone. Society can be so forward-looking all the time that we forget to enjoy the moment we are in right now.

We no longer live in a time where we have to settle down and work from a young age. We have the liberty to do as we please, to enjoy life in the present. Young people have the rest of their lives to settle down, so why shouldn't they take a risk and do something reckless now? If not now, then when? Some people may choose to never settle down, and they're perfectly within their rights not to. No one should feel coerced into a lifestyle they dislike, because of what anyone else expects of them, be it family, friends or society as a whole. Some people may take the sensible route now, and use their retirement for all these other experiences; but life is unpredictable and we can't always count on having that time. No matter how much you try to plan your future, you never know what's coming around the next corner that could derail the whole thing.

Don't waste time on things you don't enjoy, just because someone else thinks you should. Don't settle for a job or a person or anything else that you don't feel is right. If the conventional route works for you, and makes you happy, then go for it. If it doesn't, then don't. Don't panic if your plans don't come together immediately either, life can be tough sometime. But don't give up them. Do what you love, be who you want to be, take chances and embrace life. Because it's not going to wait around for you.