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It's Time to Stand Up for the Progressive and Conservative Institution of Marriage

Posted: 04/02/2013 00:00

Tuesday 5 February 2013 will be an historic day. It will be the first time in recent years that a 'free vote' bill is debated before a Queens Speech. The first time in living memory that an issue raising such fundamental matters of moral, legal and constitutional significance has been pushed through by a government without an electoral mandate and without the whole House's scrutiny. And it could be the first time a government has less than half of its MPs supporting a government bill.

If it passes the bill will of course be historic, making it lawful for same sex couples to marry. Supporters say colleagues should be on the right side of history in relation to gay rights. I see it differently like Stonewall's chief executive Ben Summerskill did in 2012, when he told me he feared gay marriage would just put us in our trenches and not advance gay rights. There will be MPs from all parties with me voting against the state's attempt to redefine marriage. They are united in supporting the equal value of men and women whatever their sexuality and affirming the distinctive value of marriage being between a man and a woman. They can tell their constituents in 2015 that they supported the social institution of marriage and supported the foundation of a free society.

Phillip Blond and Roger Scruton's paper on marriage published today by Respublica ('Marriage Union for the Future or Contract for the Present') comes in the nick of time to remind us why marriage needs defending not redefining and same sex unions need respecting.

Marriage is a vital heterosexual institution becuase it caters to the unique consequences of heterosexual union - children. It cannot simply be extended to others without this purpose being devalued or lost. For as Blond and Scruton point out what most threatens marriage is an account of marriage that just reduces it to the people involved - making marriage a simple contractual relationship that does not extend beyond the consenting parties themselves. Redefining marriage as more of a partnership than a conjugal relationship fundamentally changes the meaning of marriage and helps to erode its historic and crucial purpose.

Children and parenthood barely get mentioned by supporters of the bill despite the fact that this is the prevailing reason for most couples getting married. You could begin to think that marriage was all about the value of adulthood and not the value of parenthood. Of course same sex couples raise children in loving homes and not all marriages involve children. But over the centuries society and church have had a united view of the essential purpose of marriage, to provide a stable institution for the care of children. Now the state is trying to divide and rule the meaning of marriage.

Blond and Scruton's considered paper is a timely rebuttal to those who pigeonhole opponents of the bill. Tuesday will be the time for all MPs who believe marriage is our most progressive and conservative institution to stand up and be counted.

 
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Tuesday 5 February 2013 will be an historic day. It will be the first time in recent years that a 'free vote' bill is debated before a Queens Speech. The first time in living memory that an issue rais...
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11:41 PM on 02/06/2013
David Burrowes MP - shame on you. I was in my late 40s when I got married. Neither me or my wife will have children. We got married because we love each other. Any two adults who love each other and want to commit themselves to that love should be able to get married. Many gay couples will want children. Some lesbinas will be able to carry a child to term. Other couples will adopt. This is also the way that heterosexual coules have children also. David Burrowes MP - shame on you.
02:12 PM on 02/05/2013
I call BS! You can't seriously be saying that marriage should just be between a man and a woman because they can have kids? Cause what about those same sex couples who can't, or don't want to, have kids? Are they they no longer married?

Marriage is about way more then pro-creation. You know that. If it wasn't, you wouldn't be fighting to hold onto it as strongly as you are.

You don't have to like it, you don't have to agree with, but same sex marriage is about equality. And by denying it, you're no different then those who didn't want to give women the vote or end slavery.
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12:48 PM on 02/05/2013
Um, no. Marriage is not mainly about children, and just because you assert that it is, doesn't make it so. If your primary reason for getting married is so you can have a child with someone then yours is not a marriage I would ever want.
Marry for love, marry for commitment. Having children and getting married are consequences of the same love. To suggest one is a product of the other is intellectually bankrupt.
05:20 PM on 02/05/2013
Back before the 60s virginity and marriage were far more about family. Children born out of wedlock were not accepted as they are today. There was a stigma. So in tradition it was very about family.
11:25 AM on 02/05/2013
The bill will pass. You people have lost the argument, and yes, you will forever be on the wrong side of history. Now trot off somewhere and leave the rest of us to live in an improving world, thank you very much.
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hearthammer
If left is right and right is wrong, decide!
09:50 AM on 02/05/2013
Quite a few problems in this rant, but the main one comes in the third paragraph!

Does the writer really think that human fertility doesn't exist until marriage? Falling for that one means that the rest of his rant is just that! A rant!
11:30 AM on 02/05/2013
I commend you on your ability to narrow it down to one area!
07:11 PM on 02/05/2013
Fertility isn't supposed to be exercised until the age of consent. This coincides with the age that people can marry (with parental consent). Until 1961 on introduction of the pill, girls were notionally married virgin. That's the tradition.
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hearthammer
If left is right and right is wrong, decide!
09:25 AM on 02/06/2013
Traditions die and are replaced by others.
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scaryduck
Gentleman. Scholar. Acrobat.
07:51 AM on 02/05/2013
Just a point: Those of you against gay marriage *do* realise it won't be compulsory?
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Ezekiel 2517
Face your fears or they will climb over your back.
03:32 PM on 02/06/2013
Thank You, I laughed.
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07:42 AM on 02/05/2013
Well said, now watch the bill pass.........because it is too little too late to stop this monstrous bill pass!
11:14 PM on 02/04/2013
Homosexual Parenting: Placing children at risk Timothy J. Dailey Ph.D. "www.orthodoxytoday.org/articles/DaileyGayAdopt.php"
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08:03 PM on 02/04/2013
Are you straight? Yes. Are you married? Yes. Do you have kids? No.

NO! NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well you'd better damn well have some double-quick because that's the reason for being married. And if one of you is biologically incapable it's your duty to divorce your fertile partner and let them marry someone with whom they can fulfil the only reason for being married.

Gays are of course all infertile (well known fact) and in no way capable of reproducing.

Oh and by the by Mr Burrowes, you clearly haven't been an MP for very long. This vote, like those on abortion or capital punishment, is a free vote, which means MP's are, well, free to vote however they want regardless of party affiliation so the fact that more than half the tories will vote against it is.....how shall I put this.......oh yes, totally meaningless!
10:21 PM on 02/04/2013
Converse accident fallacy. You are employing a qualified exception to promote an unqualified change to the general rule. Like claiming that the use of morphine for pain relief justifies it being made available over the counter.

Try another line of argument.
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10:58 PM on 02/04/2013
Fine.  If two consenting adults want to get married they should be allowed to marry.  
If someone can actually provide one reason that my marriage is somehow threatened or invalidated by two men or women I've never met getting married then by all means do so.  But you're going to have to do a lot better than 'it's for the sake of the children.'
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05:42 PM on 02/04/2013
Just privatise marriage: only then will there be true marriage equality. The government shouldn't be showing preference to any kind of relationship, heterosexual, homosexual, asexual, polygamous, monogamous, etc.
05:39 PM on 02/04/2013
Burrowes states that the prevailing reason people get married is 'parenthood and children'. I disagree. Marriage surely means that two people love each other so much that they want to be together permanently. The EXACT same emotions are involved whether the couple are male and female, male and male, or female and female. True love transcends everything. The fact that gay people cannot become parents in the way that heterosexuals can does NOT prevent them being capable of loving another human being totally and without condition.
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05:32 PM on 02/04/2013
If you can really vote against gay marriage on that reasoning and still have a clear conscience, I almost feel sorry for you. With rates of divorce as they are, and the ever-growing number of children in single parent families on the rise, it's ridiculous to pretend that concern for children is your basis for denying people rights. If voting against gay marriage is your activism to help children grow up in a secure environment whilst ignoring the cuts to education, childcare and benefits to families that need it, then you really need to reassess your beliefs and values. Gay marriage is possibly one of the least controversial issues around, and it's a shame that there are people with your irrelevant views in positions of power. There are more important things to debate than who uses what genitalia to do what with. Grow up.
04:50 PM on 02/04/2013
Sorry, but you are using a moral human rights issue regarding same sex couples to try and clarify the conceptual heterosexual approach to marriage. This is an apples versus oranges argument and doesn't make sense.

If your object is to shift the focus of the marriage covenant towards the wider aspects of 'family', then using the same sex marriage argument as the stick to beat the issue with, is wrong.

You should be addressing your concerns towards the much greater numbers of heterosexual couples who willingly choose NOT to commit to marriage and to formalise their union. As the numbers of children born to cohabiting and unmarried couples continue to increase, the traditional idea of marriage is becoming more and more archaic and outdated.

Ironic that there is such resistance to an acceptance of same sex couples who want recognition of something that heterosexual couples seem to be turning away from in droves.
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03:58 PM on 02/04/2013
“a 'free vote”
that empowers a minority to legislate for the majority may be historical. But in terms of the tenets of democracy, its hysterical. Democracy is dead! Long live whatever this is?

“matters of moral, legal and constitutional significance”
Who invented marriage and when? Its longevity, on a timeline with scientific us, is not even an eye-blink. In regard to religious us, Adam and Eve weren’t participants. Humans invented it. So where’s the mystique concerning that manifestation?

“without an electoral mandate”
Sorry. We don’t do referendums. But if we did…we’d probably select policies and not bother with parties at all.

“the right side of history”
What’s the difference between phoney marriage and phoney democracy? Like mis-selling and fraud, it depends on who’s supplying the definition.

“marriage being between a man and a woman”
appears to be falling out of fashion of its own accord. Maybe compelling cohabitants to register, might be a way of bringing numbers back up.

“a free society”
surely governs itself, by virtue of the majority will. Or is this more of a semi-free society?

“Marriage is”
different things to different people. Hands up whoever has the definitive classification, as prescribed by that institution’s inventor.

“children”
are at the mercy of their supervisors. Any duty of care comes from within the character of said guardian/s. Not from some external accessory.

“same sex couples raise children in loving homes and not all marriages involve children”
But leave us not let reality impact sentiment.