I'm not asking you to eff your beauty standards, I'm asking you to eff your preconceived notions. Understand that not a day has gone by in the past eighteen years in which I haven't been cussed and tutted at and judged for looking the way I look, yet I still get up and go into the world and try to be the best version of myself.
If you are too fat you may die early. With medical experts concurring that excess fat can lead to cancer, heart disease, stroke and an early grave, radical steps need to be taken. If one really cares about saving lives as well as reducing the burden on the already overstretched NHS, one would absolutely support measures that shock a nation into taking action to control weight.
The word fat only has a negative association to it if you allow it to. If you call someone fat as an insult, that says more about you as a person than it does anything else. I believe that we need to tell people when we hear this kind of unconscious fat shaming, whether the comment is coming from a place of malice or genuinely wanting to be nice.
I beg you. Don't buy the mags with the fat shaming on the front, don't click the link with Kim K's rear on it (seriously, she is tiny in real life) and don't buy a size smaller then you are in embarrassment at what the till people will think of your actual size (just me?). The sooner we stop, the sooner we all smile a bit more, and nothing is more beautiful than that.
Yes, the rumours you've heard are correct. The one and only Ms Hopkins is putting her body through its paces as she consumes over 6000 calories a day in a bid to put on 3 ½ stone for a new TV documentary... Katie will then attempt to regain her previous body, showing us loosing weight ain't so hard.
As a therapist that specialises in weight loss, I've heard more excuses why people can't lose weight than a secondary school teacher asking for homework. Everything from I'm allergic to healthy food, to fruit and vegetables make me fat - and the finger seems to be always pointing at everyone else...
There are other beliefs out there too however and these are the ones that I want to discuss today; specifically in relation to fat women. The kind of beliefs I am talking about are the darker side of the fat hating culture; the kind that people, men in the most part but also women, do not admit exist. So what are they?
How could this be happening? ... I'd lost a lot of weight over the last couple of years and am now a size 14 (the slimmest I've been since I was 14). But that's obviously not good enough if I look pregnant. And not just a bit pregnant - enough to make two sober and presumably rational adults assume that I am pregnant enough to need to sit down on public transport. That's, what, like, seven months?
In a society transfixed on appearance and perceived beauty are we fighting a losing battle? Will there ever be a time when fat people can walk down the street without being verbally and physically abused. Will we stop being the butt of jokes on panel shows and sitcoms? And when will a fat woman take the romantic lead in a film without having to be funny or tragic?
Nearly 7 years ago now, I had a gastric bypass. I weighed around 24 stone and was a size 32. I was aged 27 at the time and more than anything, I desperately wanted to be thin. I had suffered from eating disorders. I had been on an endless cycle of diets, gruelling exercise regimes and diet pills, but nothing had made the impact I wanted it to.
"Tell me about your weight?" he asked and I knew where this was going. "The problem is you are just too unfit to run this marathon" he continued. If rolling your eyes was a more acceptable way of showing your contempt I would have done so but instead I simply replied, "What you mean is I am TOO FAT?" To which he just smiled and sat back in his chair.