The virtues of forgiveness in many different contexts of life are manifold and well known. Forgiveness can encourage and enable healing, peaceful relations, improved individual and social welfare, and psychological well being. But forgiveness is a personal choice and it must not be coerced, whether implicitly or explicitly. It is not a panacea.
For centuries, healing and art have been intertwined, forces of energy that exist both within and beyond us. I have long held to the belief that the creation and enjoyment of art has the power to restore. Within my own life, I turn to painting as a salve for my ills. Art is the clear communicator between our bodies and our souls.
The general assumption that 'time heals' makes people do nothing about their emotional pains. It validates the idea that prolonged anxiety or depression will eventually just go away. Even the language of 'moving on' implies that some kind of temporal 'passing' is required to get over something. This is simply not true.
My daughter finished by saying something that we could all apply to our own lives including in divorce and separation situations and experiences. She said, "Lives are full of accidents Mama and we need to learn from them. It would be really boring if everything was perfect and we had ice cream everyday."
Energetically speaking, there are two main approaches to a reflexology treatment, and it's down to the skill of the therapist to ascertain which one is best. One can choose to act according to a non-interference principle, as simple 'catalyst': this is when there isn't really an interaction between patient and therapist. The therapist 'lends' his/her energy as a medium to support healing. The mere 'presence' of the therapist is enough to help the healing process, the treatment being the medium. A second avenue is the one of active release, where the therapist actively stimulates or seeks to modify energy patterns, having identified an imbalance.