When my son was born I spent at least the first six months wondering why, on a good day, he didn't like me and, on a bad day, he hated me. I felt ashamed of these thoughts and kept telling myself, logically, that it wasn't possible for my son to think or feel either of these things yet at such a young age.
It is no surprise then, that in order to avoid becoming obsessed with ticking clocks, women of this age find other things to focus on as a way of detracting from the glaring reality of a potential life full of cats and over 50's bridge nights. Something else to think about, as it were, aside from weddings, children, regular sex, or the lack there of any of the above.
The man of your dreams won't just arrive at your door, knocking and saying "Honey I'm here!" You must take inspired action! To attract the man of my dreams and meet my soulmate, I made small intentional changes that had a profound impact on my whole life!
I always thought of myself as an incredibly independent person. And I am - to a certain extent. I moved out of my home city at 18, I funded my way through University and a few months ago I packed my bags and emigrated to Italy.
Ours has been a bumpy ride. Though it seems small in comparison to what followed, the first obstacle we encountered reared its head when the Kenyan government stopped issuing work permits.
Being with friends and family feeds the primal human need for connection and boosts oxytocin (the happy hormone). Before they leave they'll stack the dishwasher and tell you about the salsa dancing classes they've organised for both of you. Don't argue. Just go.
After the initial January fresh start, how many people who are now in the process of divorce actually start thinking, have I made a mistake? Is it really worth it? How do I stay focused not he future? Will I ever move on?
When I speak to people about my sobriety, they imagine either that I am fighting a constant battle against temptation or that I no longer have any thoughts about drinking at all. The reality is somewhere in between. The best way to describe it is through the metaphor of something most of us can relate to - a relationship with an ex-partner, from the initial meet, to the aftermath of the break-up.
Whenever there's mention of a toxic situation, we all know someone who springs to mind. You know the types; from the jealous and controlling to the self-centred and insecure. Like a soap opera, they fuel conversation when gossiping about others or when we are genuinely concerned.
Every couple have their own reasons to leave the normal life behind. It doesn't matter why, how, where and when they travel. The important lesson to learn is that you can have a happy marriage without: a standard job, a mortgage, kids and the pressure that society puts on you.
The start-up roller coaster cliches are an understatement, and every facet of every person and relationship will be exposed in the process. If you already know every side of a person and a relationship - you're doing a pretty good job de-risking the chance of a personnel implosion.
At sixteen, I moved to France on an Erasmus exchange, the Internet was brand new and email was going to be our main form of contact with people back home. I set up my first ever email account. I did loads of different searches for suitable id's for myself.
Funny things, aren't they; friendships? When they're good, you feel like you're wrapped up in a lovely emotionally supportive and hilarious bubble, but when they go south, it can be tricky to know how to handle it, devastating, even.
Both men and women will stay loyal and supportive to their partners for many years because of the deep rooted love they have for them, however, this doesn't mean that other elements of the relationship should be taken for granted.
At the end, no one wants to get hurt again. Or no one wants to invest their time in romancing and find that only a few months down the line 'not to be chosen'. Rejection hurts. Bad relationships hurt as well.
As your average human being that grew up in the nineties and early noughties; I like to live in a reality that involves Britney and Justin eventually stopping this masquerade of 'living separate and happy lives', and one day get back together.