There are four certainties in life, we live, we die, we pay taxes, and the police will never understand the concept of domestic abuse.
Hubby is a patient man. Strong, loving, considerate too, but mostly patient (in the extreme). He has a tough job sometimes - he has me. Granted, I have my good points (too many to list, obviously) but then there's also that nasty cloud/dog/bubble aspect just waiting in the wings, ready to pounce as soon as I let my guard down. And when it pounces on me, it pounces on him too.
The day after the ball, I felt fine. I did not harbour the dread that follows a night of self-abasement. Still, the picture of my pasty visage was a giveaway. I had shamed myself. The newsletter was quarterly so I would have to endure its presence in the canteen for some time. I could destroy every copy but they would only be replenished by a keen intern.
Now, as a proper grown up - whatever that means - I can see that the flurry of youth brings with it deep uncertainty and glorious freedom in equal measure. Good friends are like rocks throughout this process and we cling to them for comfort and security, whilst benefitting from all the fun of new-found adulthood in the safety of warm and familiar company.
There are all warning signs that you need to STOP and FOCUS on your marriage. It will not fix itself. You need to take time out if you want to avoid things getting worse. If you leave them too long then you will head towards what I call the "switch flicking moment". This is the point of no return when something just changes and you no longer feel that attraction to your partner.
Being single isn't something that should be endured, a temporary standing until your life really begins and somebody comes along to complete you, it is YOU. It is you on your own, exactly as you are without the prop of anybody else.
He has his own mind, although at times he may choose to deviate from it in order to keep the greater peace for the both of us. I would recognise and value this, time and time again. Because it does not mean I am right or I have won. It is simply a reflection of his grace.
I wish you knew the pain you've put me through the last 26 years. The suicide attempts I once made on my life. The memories that haunt me. How I spent many years believing I was worthless. How I still hear your voice in my head sometimes telling me that I'm stupid.
Do we really put our children first? Separation for parents can be amongst the toughest experiences in life; the hurt, anger, pain and insecurity can be unbearable, and in those moments of feeling utter rejection you are meant to act responsibly on behalf of the children so that they are put first?
It's such a shame that it takes the death of a hugely famous actor/comedian to get the conversation happening to such a level. However, if we must find a positive from this tragic tale, the exposure of his struggles may leave some people with a greater understanding of the illness, and those who are masking their troubles may be encouraged to talk.
If you're one of those people who spouts off about not needing friends because your partner is your best friend or because you're too busy, widen your horizons. Become an individual. Don't get into that unhealthy trap.
It appears that the baby boomers have decided to shake up old age and are now opting for married life again rather than a blue rinse or a pair of slippers. According to latest figures from the Office for National Statistics marriage rates have risen for people in their sixties.
My interview with a husband age 40, married with three children. What do you want out of your relationship? ... Great sex and regularly, trust, fun, shared goals and morals, laughter, a sense of adventure.
Ego enables us to see shortcomings and weaknesses in others, but not in ourselves. And when we do see our weaknesses, ego hides them and claims to the world that we have none. How do you know when your ego is at work? If you feel insulted, if a criticism hurts, if you get defensive, lose confidence.... it's your ego reacting!
I've been single for two and a half years now and during that time I've found it relatively easy to talk (and write) about dating. As harsh as it sounds, I haven't really cared too much about anyone in that time (although there were 2 notable exceptions) and so when feelings aren't involved it's easier to be nonchalant about dating.
I'm a big advocate for continuing to make an effort in your relationship, after you've made it "official", and I love finding new, fun, and most importantly budget-friendly date-night ideas. Here are my top five money-saving tips for dating on a budget.