Exploring what's inside this hidden closet of yours can be like opening a Pandora's Box. When you discover what you've stuffed in there, perhaps you might decide it's time for a spring clean. In a relationship the darkest part of you will often come out of the closet.
At the time, it was certainly easier for me to avoid a big falling out. I felt no animosity towards anyone, just no longer had the same desire to hang out. Would admitting this have been fairer on them, or served only to lessen my own guilt?
With that tiny bit of energy left that you have (ok, so that energy doesn't exist, but for the sake of my blog post pretend it does), grab your other half, stick on that wedding song, slow dance, and remember how you felt that day. What you can tell the Bride is that it won't be easy, but it will be worth it.
I don't want to say thank you for parenting, it's a job we both accepted the minute the pregnancy test turned positive, in fact it's something we committed to by disposing of the contraceptives. I want to thank you for the things you have done for me since we have become parents.
After a while we start to get a little too comfortable. We realise that person isn't going to breakup with us for some of our tiny idiosyncracies and that they love us for who we are. Who we really are (ahem) right?
As much as I can appreciate that finances should be private to some extent, and that individuals have a right to be considered separately from their partners, I just can't imagine keeping a secret credit card or putting lots of effort into hiding big purchases from my partner on a regular basis. I certainly wouldn't dream of hiding £100,000 from him!
Despite the questionable dress code and cost of bikes, being a Mamil has its benefits. For men, it can provide a relatively tame outlet for midlife angst while, for women, it can help by addressing primeval needs (theirs) and facilitating much-needed me time (ours).
Most people like or need to think that abusive relationships are black and white, but they're not are they? We know that. The abusive men we love or have loved don't start out hurting us at the beginning nor are they always total monsters. That's what makes it all so confusing and so hard.
People were welcoming and warm and quick to laugh. Almost nothing happened on time. Meetings started when they started and went on longer than expected. African Time existed in the Western Cape, too; it reminded me in this way of a less eccentric Kenya.
Sex that we're familiar with, is focused on the few seconds event of orgasm, whereas this work focuses on reconnecting us to the innate sensitivity within our own bodies inside, and then from this place, connecting with our partner.
The fact that people are willing to marry a complete stranger gives a clear indication of what dating is really like in 2015 - a messy minefield! Put simply, people would rather sign a legal document and spend their life with someone they've never even met than navigate the dating scene.
Kissing allows us to convey feelings that words cannot describe. There is still much to discover about kissing beyond what we already know about its evolutionary and personal importance but clearly, its complex, fascinating and feels great. So pucker up! It's good for you.
A couple of days ago I realised that in the last 7 months, no one has actually asked me out. I am therefore 'choosing' to be single in the same way that Ann Widdecombe is 'choosing' to be single.
If, for one moment, we'd think that those ''perfect'' people may have imperfections too, we'd be much more open to actually experiencing what they're about. As the truth is, they are far from being perfect, we all are.
I celebrate Pride every day that I wake up with my girlfriend. Pride consumes my every movement. My every achievement. My struggle lifts me beyond all I thought possible. I accept that my pride is what makes me different, but also just the same.
The Mating Market Model explains the phenomenon; prior to marriage, weight maintenance is motivated primarily by the desire to attract a mate (Sobal, 1984). After marriage? There is pizza.