At 38, I was a freelance film director. After a short relationship ended, I found myself single, pregnant and broke. I decided to have the baby and raise him alone. Years after my son was born, scrolling though an old Nokia, I found that I had unwittingly archived a three-year dialogue of text messages between my son's father and I.
Am I the only woman confused here? Look I am all for men having their time and being so damn sneaky about it. Trust me, we all need breaks from each other, both men and women. But what if men could figure out a way around this? A way to both please the lady and please themselves.
When your sex life is lacking, it's like a poison. You might not think it's a big deal at first, but problems in the bedroom tend to breed resentment and insecurity that can filter into every aspect of the relationship. A bad sex life usually doesn't mean you should throw in the towel quite yet though!
Married for three months now, my husband and I are already learning important lessons about our marriage that will help form the basis of how our love for each other develops and grows over the years to come. Reflecting on lessons learned so far, here are five things that have struck me as particularly significant since saying 'I Do'.
Mediation involves couples holding discussions, led by a trained mediator, to reach agreements out of court, which can then be made legally binding and enforceable by a court order. It's long been a favourable option for couples who are willing, and able, to reach an agreement without discussions becoming clouded by emotion.
The "I Don't Want To Waste My Good Hair Day Date" You catch a glimpse of your reflection in the mirror and think "Damn! I look super hot today, I simply cannot waste this pretty on going home and doing laundry." So you set up a date, obviously!
I am not a trained dog coach. I approach dogs from a soul-searching and creative angle. In overcoming my dog phobia by painting their portraits, I came to realize how sensitive they were. Having lived with several dogs and taken care of them at the Friends of Animals rescue center in Athens, I've learned how to live in the present.
Try to see the best in her -Your mother in laws intentions are probably positive but these may be heavily disguised in negative comments, actions and judgements. Maybe she is a little jealous of you and her son, maybe she is jealous of your youth or anxious for you to like her.
Maybe your dad was just cr*p. Did he leave your mum for another woman? Damage her so badly with the open nature of his extenuating sexual exploits or controlling dominance that neither you nor her ever recovered? Most Dads just don't know how to be a Dad.
No matter the twists and turns that your love life takes, your girlfriends will always be there to pick up the pieces and put you back together again. The housewives were insane, but they stuck together and got each other through the tough times.
Online dating is a bit better than dating apps, because sites like Match and eHarmony match people with you in a systematic way regarding your personality and circumstantial expectations for a potential partner.
Conscious coupling is about being conscious about whether you want a relationship, what are the important values for your ideal partner to have and what kind of relationship are you looking for? Are you just interested in something casual? Do you want a long-term partnership?
If you were to look ahead one year, how would you like to see yourself? Would you like to see you exactly the same as you are now, or are there some slight, or even major, changes you would like to make to your behaviour, your look, your attitude or something else?
As we grow up we have this natural behaviour suppressed. Schools encourage children not to make mistakes, to get things 'right'. This continues through into the world of work, where the making of mistakes can be criticised and mocked.
As the winter blues and grey rainy days subside and we step towards the promise of blue skies and sunshine, it's the perfect opportunity to shake off the gloom and instead bloom with positivity. How?
At the end of the day everybody wants to know whether the person's into them or not, right? As a guy we're no different. If a girl doesn't like me, I just want her to come out and say she'd "rather be friends" or "please stop hanging out in front of my flat, I've already notified the police". In this day and age, though, it's never that simple.